DOES A ONE NIGHT STAND CHNAGE YOUR VIEW OF A POSSIBLE RELATIONSHIP WITH AN INDIVIDUAL CHAPT 1

OK SO I WAS LISTENING TO ONE OF MY FAVORITE SHOWS ON SIRUS RADIO. ITS CALLED COCKTAILS WITH PATRICK AND THEY BROUGHT UP AN INTERESTING TOPIC. AND I REALLY HAD TO THINK BACK ON THIS WONDERING IF A ONE NIGHT STAND CHANGED MY PERCEPTION OF A PERSON. AND I GOTTA SAY IT DID AND IT DIDN'T. I WAS ON BOTH SIDES OF THE FENCE ON THIS ONE BECAUSE BACK WHEN I WAS SINGLE IT WASN'T LIKE SEX WAS JUST KNOCKING AT THE DOOR OR ANYTHING. I MEAN LETS BE HONEST. WE ALL HAVE THOSE DAYS WHERE WE ARE EXTREMELY HORNY. AND I MEAN THATS WHAT A ONE NIGHT STAND CAN DO FOR YOU. NOW IT ALSO DEPENDS ON THE PERSON THAT YOUR HAVING THE ONE NIGHT STAND WITH. IF YOUR FALLING FOR A PERSON THAT YOU ARE DATING YOU GOTTA HOLD BACK ON THE SEX A BIT. THATS RIGHT FELLAS IF YOU HAVE BLUE BALLS, A FEW MORE WEEKS OR MONTHS WON'T MAKE THAT MUCH OF A DIFFERENCE NOW WILL IT. I THINK IT CAN BE REALLY DIFFICULT TO HAVE A ONE NIGHT STAND WITH SOMEONE AND CONSIDER THEM A POTENTIAL BOY/GIRL FRIEND. BUT THEN THEY COULD BE THINKING THE SAME THING ABOUT YOU AS WELL. I THINK IT SORT OF GOES ALONG WITH THAT WHOLE THEORY SOMETIMES SEX IS JUST SEX AND YOU SHOULD LEAVE IT AT THAT. NOW HOPEFULLY THE SEX IS GOOD SEX. BUT STILL THATS ALL IT WAS. BOTH MEN AND WOMEN HAVE HAD CERTAIN INSTANCES WHERE THATS ALL IT WAS TO THEM. YOU WENT IN, FUCKED YOUR BRAINS OUT AND AT THE END OF THE NIGHT THERE WASN'T MUCH LEFT TO SAY. BUT TO LOOK AT THAT PERSON AND SAY HEY I THINK I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU, SCARES THE HELL OUT OF ME.

I THINK SO MANY PEOPLE CONFUSE THE TWO AND I MYSELF HAVE DONE THIS IN THE PAST. SOMETIMES YOU DATE A PERSON AND YOUR PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO THEM AND YOU CAN JUST IMAGINE THEM NAKED EVEN IF THEIR STANDING IN FRONT OF YOU WITH A SKI SUIT ON READY TO HIT THE SLOPES. AND ONCE YOU HAVE SEX WITH THEM IT SORT OF RUINS THE MOMENT FOR ANYTHING THAT COULD POSSIBLY GO FURTHER. AND IN THE BACK OF YOUR MIND YOUR THINKING WOW THAT SEX WAS GREAT! BUT I WONDER IF I WAS THE ONLY PERSON THEY HAS SEX WITH THAT QUICK. WELL ODDS ARE YOU AREN'T AND NEXT CHAPTER WE WILL DIG INTO WHY.

REAL MEN WHERE PANTS THAT FIT chapt 4

one of the major problems with men in general is that they refuse to change their ways. some feel they will never work a 9 to 5 job. some feel that they are gonna purchase the highest fashion and drive the most expensive car even if they can't afford it. others are even more dumb founded. they believe sending 20 bucks and a pack fo pampers is rasing a child and they wonder why their asses is getting hit up for child support.

this is a major problem. but knowing that is does exsist, why not break the cycle. why not after you see that miracle of your son or daughter being born, be a father to your children. raise your kids. they need us men in their lives. now more than ever. if your pockets can't afford something don't buy it. downsize if possible to live more comfortable. remember nice clothes don't pay the bills.

also treat women with respect. yes i agree that there are very few good women out here but that doesn't mean that you have to stero-type them all and treat them like their name was bertha. women deserve better than that. everything is a risk. and somethings are risks worth taking.

i wanna show love to all the real men that are wearing the pants that fit them. assuming the roles that they have to play as fathers husbands, and in the work force. its so few of us so we gotta keep it going for the idiots that haven't gotten a clue yet.

ok thanks for reading my blogs stay tune for my next mystery. comming up next entitled. the unfaithful faithful.

real men where pants that fit chapt 3

the truth is most men don't mind wearing pants that are too damn big for them because there is always a woman unfortunately willing to help them hold their pants up. why is the question. its like the whole good girls love bad boys syndrome. i'd rather call it smart girls love stupid boys. and this is true. how many women do we know fall for that guy who doesn't have a job or has no clue in life whats so ever, has like 5 kids by 4 different women but they love him though. NEGRO PLEASE! thats pathetic but it does exsist. i will never understand why ? but this is my opinion. most men go for a certain type of woman. they aim for the type thats usually air headed with no direction in life. this way the woman is less likely to see how much of a dumbass he really is. and men become thrilled at this. its a game to them. they don't mind spending tons of money or what ever it takes to keep the trophy wife happy but once reality sets in, the woman finds out that the man was so damn broke that if somebody attempeted to rob him, they would just be practicing. and its not a self esteem thing. its a mental thing. if you tell any air head the right words, he or she, and i'll repeat that, because men are air heads too. he or she will fall for anything. and i ask myself what is the point of doing this if you call yourself a man.

well the truth is your not one. real men don't try to wear pants that are too damn big for them. its almost like your dumbass is searching in the big and tall section and your only 130 pounds. being a player as a man is stupid. believing that you'll never get caught is even worse. but they try don't they. whether it be the guy who claims he makes 165,000 a year or the guy who claims that he is an engineer. both are likely to be lies, but here is the kicker once again. women fall for this type all of the time. and then they wonder why they can't find anyone. how many women do we know are in their 30's looking for a boyfriend. they forgot that when they were in their 20's they were running around fucking everything that walked, having kids by these men and all of a sudden they are mature now. now thats funny. men get a thrill out of this. because they know that a woman is even more likely to fall for them at this point because they seemed to be despearate.

its ashame , both can be the blame for this game because each sex plays theri part in this. next chapter we will look at men that don't change.

REAL MEN WHERE PANTS THAT FIT chapt 2

speaking as a man and from a male perspective, i gotta say that there are far too few real men in this world. and yes it goes for women as well because they are certainly not innocent but that topic is for another blog. its ashame what i see when i look at the boys that i grew up with that became so called men, and even men i don't know and may just happen to bump into and have a conversation with. they just seem to have things figured out ass backward. and it starts with having yourself together as a man. you see back in the day i guess it was cool to sell crack on the corners and bank so much money per night and because you did this you considered yourself to be a man. now that time has moved on and by the way it does, not sure if these individuals looked at that. most men seemed lost. like they don't have a fuckin clue about anything. most couldn't even write a check if you gave them the pen. and i wonder at what point does the light come on people. as man there are several things that need to be clear for you to even call yourselves that. you need to first have a job. and i don't mean some rinky dink job. and i have a problem with this. i remember having this discussion with some people at a barbershop that i used to go to. we all knew this guy and yeah he was a loser we all knew it. but these guys were taking up for him saying well he may not have a good job but he works and that is all that matters. yes maybey at 18 and 19 but at 35 you got to be fucking kidding me. that shit will never fly. once you hit a certain age you have to understand how important it is to have a job that will provide for you and your family. this is a must. working some bull shit job that puts enough money in your pockets to get a number 3 and large coke just doesn't cut it at this point in life. being a father of two i know how expensive it is to raise children and i just could never see myself turning to them and saying wow i would love to get you the clothes that you need and to put food in your stomach but i can't because i don't make enough but at least i work though. BULL SHIT! you have to have a stronger head on your shoulders than that. ok next you have to be able to maintain yourself as an adult. this means to have a job and health insurance of some sort. i hate it when i see men settle for these jobs that if they don't work they don't get paid. man how crazy is that. if your sick or have to take time off shouldn't you get paid for that. sick time , personal days, floating holidays get a clue. now on to the financial picture, you must have a bank account. do not i repeat do not go down in the city and cash your paychecks at "WE CASH CHECKS HERE AND ALSO SELL CELL PHONES AND HAIR PRODUCTS AND BURGERS!" NO! at this point in your life you need to be able to either take your paycheck to the bank or have it direct deposited into your bank account. also have enough sense to purchase life insurance for yourself, spouse and children. you have to be responsible and if you have a car, do not drive it if you do not have a license. better yet don't purchase a car unless you can put the car legally in your own name with insurance. if you can't do that, then your ass doesn't need to have a car in the first place.

you see alot of people think that making it or finally getting there as a man is having the lexus and the house or condo and its not. its simply taking the steps to be a responsible adult. no one is perfect we all make mistakes but to sit there and wait for some miracle to happen thats gonna change your entire life is pathetic and unrealistic.

its amazing when i see this and the funny thing is that there are more men that are in this situation than there are men that really have there shit together. there are more men living to look good instead of living to be better off. and the worse part is women fall for this and we will look at why next chapter.

ok gotta put this in, i'm probably pissing alot of people off right now, yeah i guess so, always remember that my blogs are written from my point of view they are not meant to disrespect or offend anyone. with that said next chapter see you there.