REAL MEN WHERE PANTS THAT FIT chapt 2

speaking as a man and from a male perspective, i gotta say that there are far too few real men in this world. and yes it goes for women as well because they are certainly not innocent but that topic is for another blog. its ashame what i see when i look at the boys that i grew up with that became so called men, and even men i don't know and may just happen to bump into and have a conversation with. they just seem to have things figured out ass backward. and it starts with having yourself together as a man. you see back in the day i guess it was cool to sell crack on the corners and bank so much money per night and because you did this you considered yourself to be a man. now that time has moved on and by the way it does, not sure if these individuals looked at that. most men seemed lost. like they don't have a fuckin clue about anything. most couldn't even write a check if you gave them the pen. and i wonder at what point does the light come on people. as man there are several things that need to be clear for you to even call yourselves that. you need to first have a job. and i don't mean some rinky dink job. and i have a problem with this. i remember having this discussion with some people at a barbershop that i used to go to. we all knew this guy and yeah he was a loser we all knew it. but these guys were taking up for him saying well he may not have a good job but he works and that is all that matters. yes maybey at 18 and 19 but at 35 you got to be fucking kidding me. that shit will never fly. once you hit a certain age you have to understand how important it is to have a job that will provide for you and your family. this is a must. working some bull shit job that puts enough money in your pockets to get a number 3 and large coke just doesn't cut it at this point in life. being a father of two i know how expensive it is to raise children and i just could never see myself turning to them and saying wow i would love to get you the clothes that you need and to put food in your stomach but i can't because i don't make enough but at least i work though. BULL SHIT! you have to have a stronger head on your shoulders than that. ok next you have to be able to maintain yourself as an adult. this means to have a job and health insurance of some sort. i hate it when i see men settle for these jobs that if they don't work they don't get paid. man how crazy is that. if your sick or have to take time off shouldn't you get paid for that. sick time , personal days, floating holidays get a clue. now on to the financial picture, you must have a bank account. do not i repeat do not go down in the city and cash your paychecks at "WE CASH CHECKS HERE AND ALSO SELL CELL PHONES AND HAIR PRODUCTS AND BURGERS!" NO! at this point in your life you need to be able to either take your paycheck to the bank or have it direct deposited into your bank account. also have enough sense to purchase life insurance for yourself, spouse and children. you have to be responsible and if you have a car, do not drive it if you do not have a license. better yet don't purchase a car unless you can put the car legally in your own name with insurance. if you can't do that, then your ass doesn't need to have a car in the first place.

you see alot of people think that making it or finally getting there as a man is having the lexus and the house or condo and its not. its simply taking the steps to be a responsible adult. no one is perfect we all make mistakes but to sit there and wait for some miracle to happen thats gonna change your entire life is pathetic and unrealistic.

its amazing when i see this and the funny thing is that there are more men that are in this situation than there are men that really have there shit together. there are more men living to look good instead of living to be better off. and the worse part is women fall for this and we will look at why next chapter.

ok gotta put this in, i'm probably pissing alot of people off right now, yeah i guess so, always remember that my blogs are written from my point of view they are not meant to disrespect or offend anyone. with that said next chapter see you there.