SOUP FOR 4 " ADD 4 CUPS OF LOVE "

NOW THAT WE'VE ESTABLISHED THE BASICS, ADD 4 CUPS OF LOVE TO THE MIXING BOWL. LOVE IS WHAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE RECIPE SHOULD BE BASED ON. SO MANY PEOPLE GO ABOUT THIS WRONG. YOU CAN'T BASE A RELATIONSHIP ON STRICTLY SEX, ALTHOUGH WE ALL CAN AGREE THAT IT CAN FEEL GOOD AS HELL, BUT YOU STILL CAN'T BASE A RELATIONSHIP ON IT. aND YOU CERTAINLY CAN'T BASE IT ON TRYING TO BE HAPPY BY MAKING YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER HAPPY. THE PROBLEM WITH THIS IS YOU WILL GET LOST IN THE FOLD. YOU SEE SOMETIMES WE PUT OUR FEELINGS ASIDE JUST SO THAT WE CAN MAKE THE NEXT PERSONS FEELINGS OUR PRIORITY. SuRVEY SAYS ...HELL NO! this is a complete mistake. and believe me i've done this as well. what i had to learn was to first love myself. to love who i am had to come first. if i didn't love me and believe in myself. how was i suppose to share that love with another individual. you can't. you'll end up killing yourself trying to convince yourself that as long as she's happy i'm happy which is bull shit because if you're not happy, then the whole thing is a waste. love is one of those elements that takes two people to make it work while in a relationship. if both individuals aren't on the same page, you'll split quicker than a fedex package from the truck. so yes love one another , continue to fall in love with one another everyday. make it count.

SOUP FOR 4 " ADD 2 CUPS OF HONESTY BESURE TO STIR THIS IN

OK GRAB A LARGE MIXING SPOON AND STIR IN 2 CUPS OF HONESTY. BE SURE TO CONTINUE STIRRING WHILE ADDING THESE TWO CUPS. YOU HAVE TO USE 2 BECAUSE YOU WANT HONESTY FROM BOTH INDIVIDUALS IN THE RELATIONSHIP. HONESTY IS VERY IMPORTANT MORE SO BECAUSE MOST RELATIONSHIPS LACK IT. WOMEN, YOU FOUND IT HARD TO BELIEVE THAT THE GUY YOU WERE DATING SAID HE WORKED IN ONE PARTICULAR FIELD, COME TO FIND OUT HE WORKED CUTTING GRASS ON A FIELD. NOT THAT IT SHOULD MATTER BUT IT DOES DOESN'T IT. ALOT OF MEN LIE ABOUT WHAT THEY DO FOR A LIVING SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY TRY SO HARD TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY ARE TRYING TO DATE. MEN YOU FOUND IT HARD TO BELIEVE THAT THE LITTLE GIRL WHO WAS ALWAYS AROUND YOUR GIRLFRIENDS HOUSE WAS SAID TO BE HER NEICE WHEN IN REALITY IT WAS HER DAUGHTER , THE WHOLE DAMN TIME. THESE ARE JUST TWO EXAMPLES OF HOW DISHONEST BOTH MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND ITS IMPORTANT TO BE HONEST WITH ONE ANOTER FROM THE START. THIS WAY YOU AT LEAST HAVE A SOLID FOUNDATION TO BUILD ON. BY THIS POINT THE MIXTURE SHOULD START TO SHOW SOME CONSISTENCY. OK NEXT INGREDIENT

SOUP FOR 4 "ADD 1 CUP OF PATIENCE"

OK NOW THAT YOUR ALL CLEANED UP ADD ONE MEASURING CUP OF PATIENCE. YOU DEFINITELY WANT TO ADD THIS BECAUSE PATIENCE IS VERY KEY TO THIS RECIPE. YOU SEE MOST PEOPLE DON'T STOP TO THINK THAT RELATIONSHIPS ARE A GROWING PROCESS. NO MATTER HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER, YOU NEVER REALLY STOP LEARNING ABOUT ONE ANOTHER. ITS PART OF LIFE. AND WE ALL NEED TO LEARN TO BE PATIENT WITH ONE ANOTHER. ACCEPT THE FACT THAT WE ALL COME FROM DIFFERENT BACKROUNDS AND WERE BROUGHT UP WITH DIFFERENT BELIEFS AND MORALS. WHEN YOU PUT TWO INDIVIDUALS TOGETHER, THIS CAN BE THE COMPLETE AVENUE FOR SUCCESS. BRING DIFFERENT PARTS OF YOUR LIFE TO THE RELATIONSHIP. BUT YOU HAVE TO HAVE THE ABILITY TO WORK WITH ONE ANOTHER. TO RESPECT THAT, YES YOU ARE DIFFERENT BUT THATS WHAT ATTRACTED YOU TO ONE ANOTHER IN THE FIRST PLACE. I MEAN REALLY WHO WANTS TO DATE THEIR REFLECTION, YOU CAN LOOK AT A MIRROR FOR THAT. DIFFERENT DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN NEGATIVE, DIFFERENT CAN BE POSITIVE IN SO MANY WAYS SO TAKE THE TIME TO LEARN ABOUT ONE ANOTHER. YES MEN , I'M TALKING TO YOU, THINK WITH THE HEAD ABOVE YOUR SHOULDERS, NOT THE ONE BELOW YOUR WASTE. YOU'LL BE SURPRISED AND AMAZED AT HOW WONDERFUL THAT WAY OF THINKING CAN BE.

OK NOW GRAB A LARGE MIXING SPOON BECAUSE WE HAVE TO STIR IN THE NEXT INGREDIENT.

SOUP FOR 4 , the ultimate recipe "first clean and prep the table"

many people look at me sometimes and say you must have the perfect marriage and i always laugh and say no way in hell man. marriage is as hard as anything else you can think of. its a full time job. with no vacations, no sick days , and no nocall/noshows. as a matter of fact its extremely hard. when i first decided i was ready for marriage i knew from the jump that i had to get myself together first. no way was i about to enter a marriage acting as crazy and as wild as i was back then. i can admit that. hell at 35 i think you should be able to. but as life went on for me i had to grow up. i ceratinly couldn't be that guy clubbing and hitting parties every weekend and spending so much damn money on girls who probably didn't give a shit about me. sad thing was i knew all of this. so i went through a dating hell man. but i think i needed to go through that because it taught me what i wanted and what i didn't want out of relationships. you see its easy for someone to fall in love and get married but its harder for someone to stay in love and stay married. so i decided to investigate this whole process and we're gonna do it by making my favorite soup for 4.

ok to start you gotta get a clean surface to work with.
you want to make sure that you are upfront and honest when entering a relationship or marrriage you don't want to spread any germs of any type. you want come clean about everything because what may not matter to you could very well matter to your significant other and you definitely have to respect that. honesty may not always be the best policy but it is a start to a brand new beginning. ok so as you wash your hands with warm water grab a big mixing bowl and we're going in next chapter

THE SEX THAT DOESN'T COUNT chapt 7

its funny sometimes how people view sex as just as physical action. you lust for eachother, you rip eachothers clothes off and you fuck till you both are exhausted from the best sex that you thought you ever had. until one day. sex comes back and bites you in the ass. you see sex is a form of power. together with someone you love it has the ability to make children, it has the ability to show love between two people as you climax and bite each others lips because at that moment no one else around you matters. but sex can also be dangerous, it can also be a power that destroys relationships as well as individuals. although mr. anderson was the asailant in this story he wasn't the one responisbile for this mess. it was the married man who had the ability to say no but didn't and look what happen. hmmmm as for the ending , i won't give it away, but i will say this,a rumor has it that she went off to spain and lived a very happy wealthy life. ha ha

ok

1 love goes to:
gotta say wasup to my home boy and best friend thomas yo, we gotta keep it going we gotta stay strong out here this is what we do

to my familia, lisa, elizabeth, joshua, you guys are awesome love you bunches lol

to the johnson family, hopefully i will catch up with you all soon enjoy the summer fam

to my philly peeps, gotta love south street and i'm comming back up there man

to all my twitter followers, if you tweet it they will follow

to my friends of course thanks for always thinking of the kid, much love

to my brother justin, always got your back bro, barnes fam forever

to my brother vincent and family , love you little bro, hopefully i will see you soon

to my adoptees, yes gotta have those once your a member of the familia your in baby

to my everyone i have forgotten to mention, 1 love

ok stay tuned for my next blog, soup for 4. your gonna love this recipe, i wrote something smiliar a while ago but this one is off the hook. coming up next yeah baby

THE SEX THAT DOESN'T COUNT chapt 6

your eyes were in disbelief you stood there solid as a rock, the whole event was horrific, right there infront of you was a body hanging from the sealing fan in your bedroom you quickly dropped to your knees. who could this be, who was it. who had killed themself in your bedroom. you slowly eased your way through the crowd of people that surrounded your bed, as you gotta a closer look at the individual hanging, you realized who it was , it was someone who had lived a lie from day one. someone who had no regards for another persons feelings, it was a reflection of everything that you had done. it was you. you see what you didn't realize was you in fact were dead.

below the body was a note that read. "i'm ashamed of what i've done. i can't go on knowing that i betrayed everyone and everything that i believed in" and now you won't have to. you see the shock of cheating on your wife and with a man at that drove you crazy , you couldn't live with yourself after that. you coudln't bare to face the people that knew you. so you decided that the best way for you to deal with it was to committ suicide and no one else would ever find out. well they all found out. and as for your wife.

well no one ever heard from her again. no one ever knew what happened to her and how this mr.anderson appeared in the first place. a few days later you were buried by friends and family. everyone thought that your wife was going to show at the funeral,she didn't but. instead in the distance was what appeared to be a woman. she never spoke to anyone there. she never looked up to let anyone see her face. she stood there for the whole ceremony and when the funeral was over she disappeared.

who was she, was it your wife, was it another woman you had in your life. was it mr. anderson? well i will let your imagination run away with that one.

ok lets close this out next chapter people

THE SEX THAT DOESN'T COUNT chapt 5

as you waddled out of the bathroom sick to your stomach, you were speechless as you continuously tried to call your wife as your calls went straight to voice mail. so many things ran through your mind. you wondered what the hell was going on. was it an affair but if it was, how could mr. anderson fuck you and your wife. pun intended. were you gay was she a homosexual. what did this say about the two of you. you were certainly confused as hell about the whole thing. you went up stairs sat in a corner and cried yourself asleep.

the next morning you woke up, freezing cold. it was wierd because the sun was shining bright outside and birds were chirping but yet you were freezing. you attempted to call your wife and this time instead of your call going to voice mail, you just got a busy signal. you started to panic. around you everything looked normal, but yet you were freezing cold as if you had just come in from out of a blizzard. you wrapped yourself in blankets and walked down the steps as you saw people just wandering through your house talking about what the house was worth. you started screaming and yelling but your voice sounded faint as no one responded to you. they just looked at you as if you weren't there. you ran though the house looking for your wife , maybey she had come back , maybey this was all a dream and you were just dying to wake up. but you didn't see her, you couldn't find her. there you stood , in your own house with a bunch of strangers that were walking past you as if they didn't know you. you couldn't grasp this reality so you headed upstairs back to your bedroom. as you opened up the door. you screamed at the sight you saw. there were sevral people looking at your bed. what were they staring at? what was going on. what made you scream so loudly. you started to shake. tears starting comming down your face. you couldn't believe it. there right infront of you stood the most horrific sight that you had ever seen in your life. it was right there in front of you, it was only a few feet away, it was....

ha ha next chapter people, don't you guys just love it when i do that lol

THE SEX THAT DOESN'T COUNT chapt 4

you opened the door to see who it was , but no one was there. but in the mail slot was an envelope that read open immediately. you brought it inside the house and quickly opened it and your eyes boggled your heart melted. inside the envelope were pictures that blew your mind. you knew you had recognized that face, you knew you had met that insurance rep before. and you had. the insurance rep mr. anderson, was indeed the girl from your job that you were searching for and the girl from your job that you were searching for was indeed mr. anderson. but there was another suprise that awaited you. as you flipped through the photos, you discovered one particular one where mr. anderson was naked and he had a penis. which meant that you actually slept with a man. you quickly went in denial. this couldn't be true. you weren't gay. you loved women. this couldn't have happened. but did you really pay attention , did you really look at what you were doing in that bathroom. you looked at the pictures again as they showed this guy, with a wig and a dress, and in plain clothes dressed as a guy as well as the naked photos that checked your chin. i mean damn how was this possible. but it was. you see sometimes sex can be a dangerous thing. you want it, you yearn for it, you crave it, and you tend not to pay attention. for instance you didn't notice the pill that was slipped into your coffee that sat on your desk in the morning. who really notices that anyway right. you didn't notice how she gave you oral sex but wouldn't allow you to give her oral sex. you didn't notice that although she was completely naked , she kept her panties on , all the way up until you put her on the bathroom counter. and you certainly didn't notice what she did to make you think that you were actually getting some pussy, but instead your dumbass was only getting male ass.

you felt sick to your stomach, you ran to the bathroom and vomitted for 20 minutes thinking it was the end of the world. as you looked at the pictures in disgrace you noticed a note that was attached that read, from a friend. you didn't know what to say. you though wow , look what i have done. then reality set in and you realized your wife had been gone for an hour and the store was only around the corner. you quickly called her on her cell phone and it went straight to voice mail. what was happeneing to you. well, if you thought things were bad now. in about 5 minutes they were about to get much much worse.

stay tuned for chapt. 5

THE SEX THAT DOESN'T COUNT chapt 3

as you walked through your front door your mouth dropped. you became frozen from the waste down, you couldn't believe it, there standing in your living room was a complete stranger another guy at that. you quickly began to get angry. so many thoughts ran through your mind. could your wife be having an affair on you, could this be a burgular in your home, if indeed your wife was having an affair did you have a right to get upset. you paused for about 30 seconds and yelled out the words "who the hell are you?" the gentleman introduced himself as mr. anderson. he explained that he was the home insurance rep that you and your wife had made an appointment with that evening to go over a quote for a new policy. you then suddenly remembered that your wife had reminded you of this appointment last night. but maybey you just had forgotten about it because it was only a few hours ago that you believed that you had the fuck of your life.

your cell phone rings and its your wife. she tells you that she will be there in 5 minutes and that the insurance guy should be on his way. you then thought that everything was ok. for that moment you seemed to put your mind at ease. you offered mr. anderson something to drink as he spoke with a very soft voice , you couldn't help but think that you knew him from somewhere. so you asked him if you had both met each other before. he of course said no not that he knew of. but this bothered you because you were the type to never forget a face. you swore you knew this guy from somewhere and you just couldn't place it.

a few minutes later your wife arrives home greets mr. anderson and runs quickly up the steps to get her check book and purse. the two of you go over the figures and agree to the terms and signed the papers for the new policy. as you both were seeing mr. anderson out , you asked your wife if the two of you had met him before, and she said no. being as confused as you normally were you let it go at that. your wife quickly told you that she had to run to the store to get some things for dinner. as you turned up the steps to take a shower, you couldn't help but pause and ask yourself if you should tell her. you knew that what you did was wrong and it was eating you up inside. as you got into the shower you peeked out the window to watch your wife drive away but she didn't. her car was still in the driveway. but mr. andersons car was gone.

suddenly your doorbell rung, and to your suprise you had an unexpecting visitor.

wondering who it is, you gotta wait till chapt 4 ha ha

THE SEX THAT DEOSN'T COUNT chapt 2

so as you entered the bathroom you were super excited man . here you were standing on the thresh-holds of sexual delights that most men dare not dream of. and you wasted no time you went right at it. lifting her up and putting her on the bathroom counter. kissing her as if you had known her for years knowing you had only known her for a few weeks. the two of you had hardly spoken before but there you were fucking eachothers brains out on the bathroom counter with no protection and no sense of remorse. was this right.. i mean come on man you were in fact married. but at the time you didn't care. she let you do things to her that your wife would have never allowed you to do. she crossed sexual boundries that made you call out her name in english, japanese, russian, and french as she made you climax harder than you ever had before. was it really the sex or was it just the act of knowing that someone else found you interesting other than your wife. was this worth it. well two hours had passed. the bathroom was so damn hot and steamy you needed a knife to cut through the fog. both of you were drenched in sweat and afterwards the two of you went back to your desk as if to try to play it off. everything had seemed fine. you actually thought that you could actually get away with it. i mean who knew. who would tell. you started smiling at your devilish deed. and as you turned to wink at your co-worker, suddenly you paused she wasn't at her desk. hours had passed and she hadn't returned and was no longer at work. you started asking around trying to find out what happen to her. and you felt pretty damn stupid to find that no one knew who this girl was. she wasn't even listed as an empolyee at your job. you started to panic out of curiosity and to your amazement, everyday this girl would pop into the your office and would time it so that she sat at an empty desk for 30 minutes a day while your co-workers were on their lunch breaks. you thought for sure she worked there, but the truth was she was, she didn't she was just working you!


you didn't know what to do. you confronted your self and decided to go home to your wife and tell her the truth no matter what the consequences. as you pulled up to your driveway to take that long walk of shame into the house, you noticed that the front door was open. you slowly looked inside thinking maybey you or your wife had forgot to lock the door,but suddenly your mouth dropped, your knees buckled. you couldn't believe what you saw. it was.....

sorry everyone stay tune for chapter 3, ha ha

THE SEX THAT DOESN'T COUNT chapt 1

its funny how the day started, you as a married man left the house as usual. you got your morning coffee from starbucks and headed off to work. as you arrived one of the staff members starts to flirt with you. which could be innocent for the most part depends on how much you can control your hormones. but you couldn't could you. you hadn't had sex with your wife in a few months and the last time you did, the sex was absolutely terrible. i mean it was so bad you wanted a refund on the condoms you brought as if that was really going to help your poor performance. but somehow none of this mattered. you were in the moment , you forgot all about morals as you eyed this young woman from work. she never spoke to you before today. she licked her lips as she stared at you from across the desk. and you were blindsided by this. you didn't even stop to think because your dumb ass was standing at attention the whole time if you know what i mean. and we all know horny kicks common senses ass everytime. you started sweating she was smiling you both were horny as hell, what to do what to do. you must have went through 8 glasses of water that morning waiting for your lunch break. i guess it hadn't become clear to you on the series of events that were about to occur.

your co-worker got up and headed to the ladies bathroom, like the horny dummy that you were you follwed her. you were excited. you thought, "hell i have game, there is no way she is gonna turn me down, i can get some right here and now" so you stood in the hall waiting for her to come out. you stood there for 5 minutes but to you it seem more like a half an hour. she cracked open the door gesturing her finger towards you to come into the bathroom, there was no hesitation on your part, you went straight for the door. as you stepped in side the bathroom your mouth dropped to the floor, you couldn't believe it, you were shocked you were in awe, you were excited. she was totally naked and waiting for you. now poses the dilema. you knew you were married. this was wrong wasn't it. i mean you had a woman to go home too but the two of you were having issues and i guess your dumbass decided to use this excuse to justify your actions. on the surface everything seemed perfect but what was about to happen to you changed your life forever.

interested yet, awe sorry your gonna have to wait for chapt 2

THE BOUNDRIES OF RACE chapt 2

now we all know that racism does indeed exsist. now whether or not we chose to accept that is entirely up to each individual. i think that all depends on what racism is to some of you. you see racism isn't just black and white. if thats your theory then you are way off. racism exsist against all minorities, some religions, even some cultures. and we see it happen everyday. at our jobs, where we socialize, even in our children's school. all along while you have some idiots that claim it doesn't exsist. well in their make pretend home of the care bears's world maybey it doesn't. but in reality it does. think about this for a second if you are not a minority how the hell do you know what racism is. from reading a book? i mean come on lets not pretend that this doesn't exsist because we all know damn well it does. but what do we do as a whole to solve this problem and better yet why do some minorities chose to make things worse for themselves. going into a situation like a job interview, black men what the freakin blue hell are you thinking wearing your pants half way off your ass so that everyone can see your boxers. no one wants to see that shit. hell we can get them on sale at target instead of looking at yours and they would be cleaner at that. and you wonder why you didn't get that job or that loan. hmmm. is it not your fault. you wear gold fronts, you have your hair braided and you have a nerve to blame someone. hmmm you gotta be fucking kidding me. black women why dress for an interview like your going to the club with a fuck em dress on. what is this velvet. have some class don't show your ass. and i'm starting this critism at home because we as african american men and women need to up our game at all angles because we know going in that the odds are against us to be successful. so don't help the system by leaning towards the stereo- type that already exsist. we are all better than that so show and prove to yourself that you are.

my uncle once told me to make sure that i surrounded myself around lots of white people because the competition would be benificial to my future. i disagreed with it then and i disagree with it now. the best way to stay comepetitive is to focus on you. be the best that you can be. don't feed into the dog eat dog world syndrome. believe in yourself, have enough trust and faith in you to know that you can succeed in life even when all odds point the other way. the competition will continue to be there, but you don't need that competition to make you rise to the occassion. be competitive with yourself and that in itself will bring out the best in you. and most of all never stop trying , never become complacent. always set new goals for yourself. as far as the whole black and white theory. well yeah it exsist. but who the hell cares. never worry about what people do to try to defeat your cause, follow your dreams , steady the road , and when you get there, you can just look back and smile. while others are pouring lots of energy into defeating you, you pour your energy into accomplishing your next goal. and eventually the strong as always will survive. yep

thankyou! i gotta thank everyone who read this blog man. staytune for my next blog titled. "the sex that doesn't count"comming up next

roll call:
gotta always thank god for blessing me and my family, with out him we are nothing plain and simple

thanks to my familia lisa, elizabeth and joshua, you guys keep me strong and grounded and for that reason i am successful

thanks to my best friend thomas who has stood by me when the fake asses didn't, i show them no love , hell no!

thanks to the johnson fam, you know how we do it, we gotta keep it together because thats who we are

thanks to moms , she gets on my nerves but gotta love her.

thanks to my brother justin and vincent for always checking in on the kid, yep

and of course all my blog readers holla. lets go!

THE BOUNDRIES OF RACE chapt 1

ITS WEIRD SOMETIMES WHEN I'M IN THE LOCAL BARBERSHOP AND EVERYONE TALKS ABOUT HOW RACISM DOESN'T EXSIST OR THAT TOO MANY PEOPLE PLAY THE RACE CARD WHEN THINGS DON'T GO THEIR WAY. WELL I GOTTA SAY THAT I AGREE WITH BOTH VIEWS. YES TOO MANY PEOPLE PLAY THE RACE CARD WHEN THINGS DON'T GO THEIR WAY BUT AT THE SAME TIME RACISM DOES INDEED STILL EXSIST. IS IT FAIR, HELL NO. WE AS MINORITIES HAVE SEEN IT ALL. YOU'VE BEEN AT THAT CAR DEALERSHIP AND YOU'VE BEEN TURNED DOWN KNOWING DAMN WELL YOU DIDN'T NEED A CO-SIGNER. YOU'VE APPLIED FOR A CREDIT CARD AND BY THE TIME YOU GOT TO USE IT, THERE WAS ABOUT 75 DOLLARS AT YOUR DISPOSAL AFTER THEY HAD A NERVE TO START YOU OFF WITH A CREDIT LIMIT OF ABOUT 300 DOLLARS. AND YES YOU'VE BEEN TO THESE NEIGHBORHOODS IN YOUR CITY, AND YOU'VE SEEN NO MINORITIES LIVING IN THESE AREAS AND YOUR FIRST THOUGHT WAS WOW YOU GOTTA BE A DOCTOR OR LAWYER TO LIVE OUT HERE. BUT THE TRUTH IS MOST OF THEM AREN'T. YOU'D BE SURPRISED TO SEE HOW MANY OF THEM WORK AT THE LOCAL TARGET AND WALMART AND GOT APPROVED FOR HOUSES THAT YOU DIDN'T. IS THIS FAIR. IS THIS NORMAL. DOES THIS EXSIST. WELL IN THE WORLD AND EYES OF A MINORITY IT DOES. AND WE'LL DIG INTO THIS AND FIND OUT WHY.

YOU SEE BEING A MINORITY IS NEVER A BAD THING. BUT YOU CAN LIVE A VERY COMPLICATED LIFE IF YOU DON'T PLAY BY CERTAIN RULES. NOW THESE RULES ARE BUILT FOR YOU TO FAIL. BUT IF YOU PLAY THE GAME THE RIGHT WAY YOU CAN SUCCEED FURTHER THAN YOU EVER DREAMED. YOU CAN LOOK BACK AND SEE WHY SOME INDIVIDUALS GOT CAUGHT UP TRYING TO TAKE SHORTCUTS TO GET THERE, WHILE OTHERS ARRIVED THROUGH HARD WORK AND DANCED INSIDE OF A BOX THAT WAS CLOSED FOR MANY YEARS AND ALL OF A SUDDEDN THE TOP CAME OPEN AND GUESS WHO WAS STANDING ON TOP THEN HMMM. OH HOW THE ROLES HAVE CHANGED. POSITIONS EVEN. YOU SEE SOMETIMES THE KEY TO SUCCESS IS LEARNING HOW TO TAKE A FALL. YOU HAVE TOO, WE ALL HAVE. YOU HAVE TO GET THOSE CUTS AND BRUISES IN ORDER TO BUILD A THICK SKIN BECAUSE YOU ARE A MINORITY. NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU TRY TO FAKE THE SHIT, NO MATTER WHO YOU MARRY, OR WHO YOU TRY TO PRETEND TO BE, YOU ARE A MONORITY AND THATS THE FIRST STEP OF CLIMBING THIS LADDER, YOU GOTTA BE ABLE TO ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE. NEVER BE ASHAMED OF IT. LEARN TO BUILD FROM IT. BEING A MINORITY IS A BEAUTIFUL THING. WE ARE BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE. STAY WITH ME AS WE LOOK INTO THIS NEXT CHAPTER AND DISCUSS, WHO UNDERSTANDS RACISM AND WHO DOESN'T. YOU MIGHT WANNA FASTEN YOUR SEAT BELTS FOR THIS RIDE BECAUSE I'M GOING THERE IN CHAPT 2.