IF SOMEONE CHEATS WOULD YOU TAKE THEM BACK chapt 2

THE WORSE FEELING IN THE WORLD IS KNOWING THAT YOU GOT CHEATED ON. I MEAN THINK ABOUT THIS. WHEN SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU WHAT THE HELL ARE THEY GOING TO SAY, WOOPS I TRIPPED OVER A SNICKER BAR AND FELL INTO SOME SEX. I MEAN COME ON MAN THEY KNEW WHAT THEY HELL THEY WERE DOING. AND THEY REALLY HAVE NO REGRETS ABOUT. WHAT YOU'LL FIND IN A CHEATER IS THAT THIS IS THE WAY THAT THEY ARE. NOW OF COURSE ITS DIFFERENT FOR MEN AND WOMEN SO LETS GET RIGHT INTO THAT.FOR A MAN, MOST MEN CHEAT BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE. I MEAN LOOK AT THIS FOR A SECOND. HOW MANY MEN DO YOU ACTUALLY KNOW HAVE A NICE CAR AND A NICE HOUSE LEGALLY. YOU SEE I ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT. THAT SHIT IS ONE OR THE OTHER. IF THEY HAVE THE LEXUS, ITS NEW , ITS CLEAN AND ITS PARKED OUTSIDE OF THEIR MOMS HOUSE WHERE THEY LIVE. IF THEY LIVE ON THEIR OWN, THEY LIVE IN AN APARTMENT WHICH THEY WILL GIVE YOU THE KEY TO AND YOUR VERY OWN SPACE IN THEIR DRESSER DRAWER TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR SOMEONE SPECIAL YEAH RIGHT. MOST MEN HAVE A HARD TIME TAKING CARE OF THEMSELVES, SO TAKING CARE OF A WIFE AND A FAMILY IS THE FURTHEST FROM THEIR MINDS. SO WHEN RELATIONSHIPS BECOME DIFFICULT THE FIRST THING MOST MEN WILL DO IS CHEAT. THEY WILL GO INTO THE ARMS OF ANOTHER WOMAN QUICKER THAT YOU LET HIM CUM IN YOU THE FIRST TIME YOU HAD SEX. AND SHE WILL END UP DOING THE SAME. AND MEN KNOW THIS AND WOMEN DO AS WELL. THIS IS NO SECRET. MEN CHEAT. ALOT OF MEN DO. THEY ALWAYS HAVE AND THEY ALWAYS WILL. WHAT IS AMAZING IS HOW WOMEN FALL FOR THIS SHIT EVERYTIME BECAUSE IT APPEARS THAT THIS PARTICULAR MAN HAS A LITTLE BIT OF MONEY WHEN HE ACTUALLY HAS A LITTLE BIT OF NOTHING. AND BECAUSE OF THIS MOST MEN ARE CONSIDERED DOGS, OR PLAYERS. BUT THEY ONLY PLAY BECAUSE THEY ARE ALLOWED TO. FOR INSTANCE WHY IS IT THAT A WOMAN WILL STAY WITH A GUY THAT HAS SEVERAL KIDS PREVIOUS TO HER. MEANING THAT HE WAS THE HELL OUT THERE. AND YOU KNEW IT AND YEAH YOU FUCKED HIM ANYWAY. MAYBEY YOU WERE HORNY, MAYBEY YOU WERE STUPID, MAYBEY YOU WERE A LITTLE HORNY AND ALOT STUPID. REGARDLESS YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WERE GETTING YOURSELF INTO. ITS ALMOST LIKE HEARING THE STORY THAT MOST WOMEN WILL TELL YOU. YOU ALL KNOW THE ONE ABOUT THE FACT THAT SHE LOVED HIM AND SHE NEVER KNEW HE WAS MARRIED. SHE HAD NEVER BEEN TO HIS HOUSE. COULDN'T CALL HIS HOME PHONE. THEY ALWAYS MET SOMEWHERE AND YET SHE DIDN'T SENSE ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT. TRUTH IS SHE KNEW HE WAS MARRIED, SHE JUST THOUGH THAT HE WAS GOING TO TRADE IN HIS WIFE FOR A NEW ONE WITHOUT ANY MONEY DOWN AND NO WARRANTY, I THINK NOT. SO ARE MEN DOGS , HELL YES THEY ARE, NO ONE IS DENYING THAT BUT SO ARE WOMEN AND WE'LL SEE WHY COMMING UP NEXT CHAPTER
THE WORSE FEELING IN THE WORLD IS KNOWING THAT YOU GOT CHEATED ON. I MEAN THINK ABOUT THIS. WHEN SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU WHAT THE HELL ARE THEY GOING TO SAY, WOOPS I TRIPPED OVER A SNICKER BAR AND FELL INTO SOME SEX. I MEAN COME ON MAN THEY KNEW WHAT THEY HELL THEY WERE DOING. AND THEY REALLY HAVE NO REGRETS ABOUT. WHAT YOU'LL FIND IN A CHEATER IS THAT THIS IS THE WAY THAT THEY ARE. NOW OF COURSE ITS DIFFERENT FOR MEN AND WOMEN SO LETS GET RIGHT INTO THAT.FOR A MAN, MOST MEN CHEAT BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE. I MEAN LOOK AT THIS FOR A SECOND. HOW MANY MEN DO YOU ACTUALLY KNOW HAVE A NICE CAR AND A NICE HOUSE LEGALLY. YOU SEE I ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT. THAT SHIT IS ONE OR THE OTHER. IF THEY HAVE THE LEXUS, ITS NEW , ITS CLEAN AND ITS PARKED OUTSIDE OF THEIR MOMS HOUSE WHERE THEY LIVE. IF THEY LIVE ON THEIR OWN, THEY LIVE IN AN APARTMENT WHICH THEY WILL GIVE YOU THE KEY TO AND YOUR VERY OWN SPACE IN THEIR DRESSER DRAWER TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR SOMEONE SPECIAL YEAH RIGHT. MOST MEN HAVE A HARD TIME TAKING CARE OF THEMSELVES, SO TAKING CARE OF A WIFE AND A FAMILY IS THE FURTHEST FROM THEIR MINDS. SO WHEN RELATIONSHIPS BECOME DIFFICULT THE FIRST THING MOST MEN WILL DO IS CHEAT. THEY WILL GO INTO THE ARMS OF ANOTHER WOMAN QUICKER THAT YOU LET HIM CUM IN YOU THE FIRST TIME YOU HAD SEX. AND SHE WILL END UP DOING THE SAME. AND MEN KNOW THIS AND WOMEN DO AS WELL. THIS IS NO SECRET. MEN CHEAT. ALOT OF MEN DO. THEY ALWAYS HAVE AND THEY ALWAYS WILL. WHAT IS AMAZING IS HOW WOMEN FALL FOR THIS SHIT EVERYTIME BECAUSE IT APPEARS THAT THIS PARTICULAR MAN HAS A LITTLE BIT OF MONEY WHEN HE ACTUALLY HAS A LITTLE BIT OF NOTHING. AND BECAUSE OF THIS MOST MEN ARE CONSIDERED DOGS, OR PLAYERS. BUT THEY ONLY PLAY BECAUSE THEY ARE ALLOWED TO. FOR INSTANCE WHY IS IT THAT A WOMAN WILL STAY WITH A GUY THAT HAS SEVERAL KIDS PREVIOUS TO HER. MEANING THAT HE WAS THE HELL OUT THERE. AND YOU KNEW IT AND YEAH YOU FUCKED HIM ANYWAY. MAYBEY YOU WERE HORNY, MAYBEY YOU WERE STUPID, MAYBEY YOU WERE A LITTLE HORNY AND ALOT STUPID. REGARDLESS YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WERE GETTING YOURSELF INTO. ITS ALMOST LIKE HEARING THE STORY THAT MOST WOMEN WILL TELL YOU. YOU ALL KNOW THE ONE ABOUT THE FACT THAT SHE LOVED HIM AND SHE NEVER KNEW HE WAS MARRIED. SHE HAD NEVER BEEN TO HIS HOUSE. COULDN'T CALL HIS HOME PHONE. THEY ALWAYS MET SOMEWHERE AND YET SHE DIDN'T SENSE ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT. TRUTH IS SHE KNEW HE WAS MARRIED, SHE JUST THOUGH THAT HE WAS GOING TO TRADE IN HIS WIFE FOR A NEW ONE WITHOUT ANY MONEY DOWN AND NO WARRANTY, I THINK NOT. SO ARE MEN DOGS , HELL YES THEY ARE, NO ONE IS DENYING THAT BUT SO ARE WOMEN AND WE'LL SEE WHY COMMING UP NEXT CHAPTER

IF SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU, DO YOU TAKE THEM BACK chapt 1

IF SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU DO YOU TAKE THEM BACK? chapt 1
now although i have never cheated on any women that i have ever dated , had a relationship with, or even been married to, that doesn't mean that i haven't been cheated on. hell i'm sure that i have. and i'm not going to lie, that in itself can make you feel like shit. but it happends more times than you think. and it seems that it only happends to the good hearted individuals too. funny thing is that most cheaters try to make up everything that there is in the book to make it look like it wasn't their fault, knowing damn well it was. they knew they did it, they should know they were there when they did it. i mean come on who are we kidding. its not really about the sex. hell i know for sure that it wasn't when it came down to me. i mean come on now i'm donte, enough said. it was more about what a guy could do for them. at least in my experiences it was. you see people usually cheat because they think that they see something better than what they have. and in most cases it isn't true but they do it anyway because well they stink! but is it fair to the ones who have gotten cheated on. well in my opinion hell no man. i mean think about it, you sleep with somone, you love that individual, you have your whole future planned with them and they just go out and cheat on you and the funny thing is, they act as if it didn't matter. almost as if it was nothing. like your investment, your time, everything you put in to the relationship wasn't worth shit. which basically means they really never gave a shit about you in the first place. ok so knowing all of this. if your significant other cheats on you, would you take them back?ok first of all lets remember that they cheated on you meaning that at some point when you were kissing her lips you were tasting his dick. and vice versa. when you were sucking his dick you were tasting her lips. sounds degrading but its true. so why do people stay in these relationships. well its certainly a mystery. for me personally i could never ever stay with someone who cheated on me. hell no man i'd rather kiss a toilet seat. hell it may hurt to get my heart broken but dayum hell no i'm not taking no sloppy left overs from some girl who thinks that because she fucked me a few times she has the right to treat me like shit. nope, i'll drop her off on the corner of drop em road and leave her avenue. but the truth is people do stay with individuals that cheat on them. i mean for instance i know this girl who straight up married the guy that cheated on her and i was like dayum. but she said she was happy. and i'm thinking are you happy that he cheated on you or are you happy that you married the guy that cheated on you because now its leagal? man please! there is no good in cheating. alot of feelings can get hurt and they usually do and basically your looked at like some kind of dog with a wish bone flee collar with a tag along box of kibbles and bits.now although both sexes cheat. and yes i mean both men and women. they both are percieved differently and we will get into this next chapter

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 4

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 4
the one thing that i have learned in all of my experiences within relationships, whether they be friendships, relatives, dating, or even marriage is that life in itself is hard man. i mean hella hard like a 3 day old pancake. life is hard as it is so why deal with a whole lot of unneccessary bullshit if you don't have to. one of the main keys of staying focused is learning how to pick and chose your friends as well as your spouses and significant others. you see some people can think that they can be happy by making the other people in their lives happy but what they do not realize is that they themselves get lost in the translation. yep even i have been there man. and i'm not afraid to admit that. life is a learning curve for us all. as we live it, we never stop learning. but the key is to learn from our mistakes and move on with our lives. i look at my life sometimes and i'm like wow man how did i do that. well i think that i was groomed for success. i think that i struggled when i was suppose to and came out on top when i was suppose to and i never looked back from anything that i have ever done. and this brings me to marriage. you see marriage is sort of that part of your life that changes from the moment you say i do. because from that moment it isn't just about you anymore and not many people know how to deal with that. and thats when your focus really comes into play. you see before you can expect the world from your spouse you must first be willing to give it. you must first expect the world from yourself. in order to give it to someone else, you can't be selfish and pig headed and you must realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. but the truth is not all of us think that way. for instance you have men/women who claim that they are in love with their spouse but are quick to fuck someone else as soon as problems arise. you have men that will raise some other woman's children but not pay attention or even a dime to their own. you have women who will deny their own children just to get a quick buck and a quick fuck with some dinner on the side. and why is this you ask. well its not only a lack of focus but its also a lack of discipline. i mean think about it, how in the hell are you gonna expect to be treated right when you can't treat any one else right. that my friends is the ultimate question in all marriages. this is why focus is so key. you always have to remember why you got married in the first place. and if you got married for the right reasons then the rest is easy but if you didn't and it just was the next thing down the list. and we all know the list. meet the girl, have the kid, by the dog , have another kid, buy the house, but the cars, buy the furniture, have two more kids, and oh yeah then we'll get married. negro please! not only is your mind out of focus but your ass is out of whack!life revolves around being focused people, this element is key to everything we do, and with the morals that we have we sometimes have to make decisons that may be difficult in alot of cases. like marrying someone who may be of a different nationality than yourself. or telling your parents that their wrong and not giving them a free pass just because they're your parents. or even chosing your friends more wisely. and keeping a distance from the ones who treat you like shit, and who are full of shit as well.the key to everything is to stay focused people. to be true to yourself. there is a very powerful movie called "not without my daughter". this movie is about a woman who goes to iran to vist her husbands family but is tricked and becomes a prisoner to her husband in this country. the same husband who treated her great when they were in the united states. but she remained focused and through it all, the abuse, the beating, the taunting , everything, she managed to escape iran and return to the united states with her duaghter. key word focus. 1 love people

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 3

other people, wow man. well i guess you can say we need them in our life. but do we really. i mean for all of the havoc and pain in the ass that these people cause the question still remains, do we really need these people in our lives. hmmm. well i guess some individuals can certainly be there, but as for others i wouldn't take their asses to a dog show where they served kibbles and bits on a stick. i mean the nerve of some of our so called friends right. and yes we all have them. first i like to call them the good friends, or the best friends. you know the ones whom you can count on for anything and they will always be there for you. and then you have the fucked up friends. i like to call these individuals the fucked up friends! these are the friends that are not only fucked up but they are fucked up to the highest point of fucktivity and since their lives are fucked up, they now want your life to be fucked up as well. which is basically an illegal action of transfer fuck, which eventually leads to some fucked up shit. and as fucked up as it sounds we still have these people in our lives. but why is the question.
you see when you are focused you tend to not only get your priorities straight but you also chose better friends and company. you chose better people to hang around and to associate yourself with. this is really important because in order to go further in life you can't hang around people that will constantly try to hold you back. and although no one can actually do that realistically, they can still make life very difficult for you. for example. you know that friend that we all have. they're so full of shit that they can fill two hefty bags with it, plant it in a forest and help save our enviornment all at the same time. well anyways these are the individuals who like to pose. thats right pose. they're fakers. not like an orgasim, but more like that guy from phantasim. they never follow through on anything. they'll say they'll meet you somewhere and will never show even if it means your life and then they will have the nerve to call you a week later as if nothing happend. or and i love this type the disrespectful type. you know the type who has nothing but mouth. and they run it all day like an energizer battery and when they say something wrong. they spend half of the day trying to correct themselves and the other half trying to make excuses on how they weren't wrong for what they said in the first place. and then of course we have the type who think they have everything but really have nothing and spend their whole lives trying to pretend. and what for. i mean why try to impress. and all of these characteristics of individuals we know add up to one common denominator. L O S E R! thats right they're losers. so why surround yourself with people like that.
you see the hardest part about staying focused is ridding yourself of people like that who try their hardest to keep you off balance. but still we must stay focused and we must go on. we must look past all of that, and realize that our lives are important too. we are people to and in order to succeed we must take every step carefully and that includes chosing the type of people we surround ourselves with more carefully. and this just doesn't go for friends. this goes for relationships and marriages as well. comming up next chapter!

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 2

the main focus for all of us should first be us. see you cannot focus on anything until you learn to focus on yourself. whether it be taking better care of yourself, or even putting yourself first, and it can even come down to loving yourself and having a good self esteem. you'd be surprised at how many individuals out here think absolutley nothing about themselves and therefore allow others to do the same. now they 'll lie about it. they'll swear up and down that there life is spectacular but in reality their life stinks like it sat on the corner of garbage can drive and dumpster avenue. when you do this you tend to lose focus and allow others to treat you straight up like your name was stanley. and who in the blue hell is stanley? in other words treat you like shit. and not just any kind of shit. the really stinky funky shit. the type of shit that you can't stand the smell of. this may sound horrible but its true. you see most people only get away with what you allow them too. i learned this along time ago. that sometimes you being a kind person can be mistaken for you being a weak person. and weak individuals never survive this game. so loving yourself is always key. this way the rest can become easy for you. you will find it easy to establish your priorities and it won't be an issue to take a back seat at times when it comes to these priorities. this is how many individuals get lost in the fold. some people think that they are focused, but really they aren't. they let people treat them like shit because well its always been that way. they don't stand up for themselves even when its absolutley necessary. they get married for the wrong reasons have kids by the wrong people and wonder where the hell they went wrong. but still they will claim that they were focused. hell they weren't focused. they were out of focus like a fake ass ugly betty. how the hell you gonna see where your going if both of your eyes are shut. if you allow people to treat you any kind of way, you mind as well be nobody because thats exactly how they will see you, as a nobody and thats not very fair is it. life is full of surprises. some good and some bad. but most of all its the challanges that make or break us. and these challanges start from within. the challange to be the best that we can be as individuals. whether it be a better person, mom, dad, grandparent, friend, husband , or wife, these are all roles that we play. and each of these roles help to define us. and once we have ourselves established and we can remain focused on us, then and only then can we focus on others which can be a good thing and bad thing as we turn the corner with this blog comming up next.

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 1

the focal point or focus point is the frame of mind that everyone must maintain when things become difficult. whether the obstacle be marriage, friendship, health, or financial. this frame of mind, this focus, helps you to weed out your true friends, the goonies as i like to call them from the jerks and assholes or should i say ass holes and jerks that call themselves your friends. we all know them and we all have them. but when you are focused do they really matter. does anyone outside of your world really matter. well they shouldn't. you see some people really tend to have a rather large circle. as for me, nope my circle is small. it always has been small and it will always be small because i'm the type of person that likes to see whats going on around me at all times. its no fun being blind sided. you know that friend that we all have that only wants to be that friend of convience. you know the one, who claims that there is always an excuse on why they didn't follow through. hell no in my opinion they can follow these N---! you take people like this and everything that goes on in the world that you have absolutely no control over and life can become stressful for you really quick, but for me, nope i don't do stress. stress can kill you, just like drugs, smoking and bad sex. its not good for you. it can be a real pain in the ass just like a signifiant other, spouse, friends, and yep no sex. so where does this lead us. well it leads us to this point. that we all must stay focused in life. at times it is extremely difficult. its sometimes seems damn near impossible, but still we must stay focused. this focus, helps us to eventaully reach our goal to become successful at everything we do. this goal is attainable. and although it is difficult we must remain focused and poised in all aspects of our lives, so follow me as we go over all of these aspects, because they like most things are extremely important.
next chapter people

IS SEX BETTER BEFORE OR AFTER MARRIAGE chapt 3

although most men will never admit this to themselves, alot of men enjoy sex more before they are married. this is basically because you can have sex without any type of committment involved. you see when you are single you can have as much as as you like. you don't have to be involved, you don't have to be in love, you really don't even have to be attracted to the person if the beer is flowing pretty good from the tap that night. and most men prefer this. men love to go from woman to woman. but as time goes by and children are born, that whole lifestyle becomes a pain in the ass. instead of enjoying the sexual freedom, most people find themselves getting stuck in weird situations. like having a stalker, or having baby mama or baby father drama, and lets not start with the whole child custody thing. thats what marriage brings to the table. when you are in love which is not in lust but in love, sex can bea beautiful experience. there nothing like making love to someone that you are in love with. the whole idea of just sleeping around can be fun for a while. but at the end of the day you'll find yourself by yourself. so the answer is pretty simple. sex can ceratainly bebetter after marriage as long as the two individuals love one another and share the same sexual passion. but if the marriage is rocky then you are better off sleeping on a hard ass bed from bedrock next to wilma and bettey because your sex life will be dull and you'll just stay hard as a rock!

IS SEX BETTER BEFORE OR AFTER MARRIAGE chapt 2

alot of individuals fail to understand how much marriage can change a couple's attraction to one another. and its true. your attraction can either decrease or increase but it will certainly not stay the same. for instance when your dating someone, all you can think about is sex because well for the most part the two of you aren't around eachother a whole lot, so your horny all of the time. but once you get married, the sex expectation goes up. your sex drive goes straight from 2nd to 3rd and this is without even using the clutch. your married now so you expect sex all of the time. but it certainly doesn't end up that way does it. isn't it funny how when your dating you can't wait to get each other out of your clothes. but once your married, you can barely find time to even get in a quickie. whether it be because of work schedules, or kids , or just plain busy, sex almost has to be penciled in and planned. and sometimes that takes the fun out of sex. you see everyone loves the idea of fogging up the bedroom windows spare of the moment. but once your married, for the most part you get so busy trying to balance your life between your spouse and kids and work, that sex tends to get pushed back to the end of the line. and this can drive you up a wall because your horny, you want it, you gotta have it and you can't and this is how sex can become complicated. back when i was single, i had so much time to do what i wanted, when i wanted. but once i got married, that time seem to tick faster than a stop watch. sex became almost get it while you can. whether it was before work or before we were headed out or just a quickie to slow the craving. and it wasn't bad sex at all it was actually great sex, but it wasn't the sex that we all had come accustomed to back when we were dating. so lets just call it different sex. you see when you are married. you have to find the time to have sex and that can be difficult. for a guy it may have to come down to chosing between the steelers kicking the ravens ass or you getting some. for a female it comes down to watching sex in the city or actually having sex in the city in your home of course. and the major perk of sex after marriage is the intensity of it. you see with a boyfriend/girlfriend, you may have love for them but its not the same as looking into your spouses eyes and the two of you bite your bottom lip just so you can hold out the final seconds so that the both of you can climax at the exact same time. and of course nothing beats that naked butt in the moon beam walk afterwards. sex when your married has no boundries, well at least it shouldn't. its the one sexual encounter where anything goes and that my friends you can't get in just a relationship. and we'll get into this more next chapter.

IS SEX BETTER BEFORE OR AFTER MARRIAGE chapt 1

sex, we've all been there. we've all had it at some point or another. but through out our relationships on the road to marriage was the sex better before or after we actually got married. funny thing is most individuals will never admit that at one time or another they actually thought about it or even took a step further and fantasized about one of their ex's. you see when you are single sex is more fun than anything. there is nothing like having it any and everywhere. you didn't have to have a bedroom and candles and soft music. it was just more about the thought of actually having sex and being in the in crowd that got most of us excited didn't it. i mean think back to that first time you ever had sex. it probably wasn't that comfortable to begin with but once you got the hang of it, it was on from there. you became addicted in a way . so much that everytime you saw the opposite sex walking down the street the first thing you thought about was having sex with them. and don't try to deny it because we've all been there. i like to look back and call those years the horny as toads years. because back then we weren't concerned, we weren't thinking about anything, we were in fact just horny and horny kicks common sense's ass every time. so sex was more fun back then. the occasional encounter in the front and back set of the car, the back porch, even the bedroom while the parents were out of the house for a while. funny thing is most of us rushed so much to have the sex that we were out of it before we ever started it for fear of getting caught. but still it was fun, and with this fun came feelings. these feelings became love for some but not for all. and thats where sex changes when it comes to marriage. you see relationships tend to have such care free lifestyles that alot of people never think that things are going to change once they get married. but oh how they change. they change drastically even. so much that our once fun and care free lifestyle seems like a distant memory once we take the plunge. and the one question that always remains is was the sex better before or after you got married. well we will look into this deeply people as we dig further into this blog. stay tune for chapter 2 to comming up next!