THE FOCAL POINT chapt 2

the main focus for all of us should first be us. see you cannot focus on anything until you learn to focus on yourself. whether it be taking better care of yourself, or even putting yourself first, and it can even come down to loving yourself and having a good self esteem. you'd be surprised at how many individuals out here think absolutley nothing about themselves and therefore allow others to do the same. now they 'll lie about it. they'll swear up and down that there life is spectacular but in reality their life stinks like it sat on the corner of garbage can drive and dumpster avenue. when you do this you tend to lose focus and allow others to treat you straight up like your name was stanley. and who in the blue hell is stanley? in other words treat you like shit. and not just any kind of shit. the really stinky funky shit. the type of shit that you can't stand the smell of. this may sound horrible but its true. you see most people only get away with what you allow them too. i learned this along time ago. that sometimes you being a kind person can be mistaken for you being a weak person. and weak individuals never survive this game. so loving yourself is always key. this way the rest can become easy for you. you will find it easy to establish your priorities and it won't be an issue to take a back seat at times when it comes to these priorities. this is how many individuals get lost in the fold. some people think that they are focused, but really they aren't. they let people treat them like shit because well its always been that way. they don't stand up for themselves even when its absolutley necessary. they get married for the wrong reasons have kids by the wrong people and wonder where the hell they went wrong. but still they will claim that they were focused. hell they weren't focused. they were out of focus like a fake ass ugly betty. how the hell you gonna see where your going if both of your eyes are shut. if you allow people to treat you any kind of way, you mind as well be nobody because thats exactly how they will see you, as a nobody and thats not very fair is it. life is full of surprises. some good and some bad. but most of all its the challanges that make or break us. and these challanges start from within. the challange to be the best that we can be as individuals. whether it be a better person, mom, dad, grandparent, friend, husband , or wife, these are all roles that we play. and each of these roles help to define us. and once we have ourselves established and we can remain focused on us, then and only then can we focus on others which can be a good thing and bad thing as we turn the corner with this blog comming up next.