THE FOCAL POINT chapt 4

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 4
the one thing that i have learned in all of my experiences within relationships, whether they be friendships, relatives, dating, or even marriage is that life in itself is hard man. i mean hella hard like a 3 day old pancake. life is hard as it is so why deal with a whole lot of unneccessary bullshit if you don't have to. one of the main keys of staying focused is learning how to pick and chose your friends as well as your spouses and significant others. you see some people can think that they can be happy by making the other people in their lives happy but what they do not realize is that they themselves get lost in the translation. yep even i have been there man. and i'm not afraid to admit that. life is a learning curve for us all. as we live it, we never stop learning. but the key is to learn from our mistakes and move on with our lives. i look at my life sometimes and i'm like wow man how did i do that. well i think that i was groomed for success. i think that i struggled when i was suppose to and came out on top when i was suppose to and i never looked back from anything that i have ever done. and this brings me to marriage. you see marriage is sort of that part of your life that changes from the moment you say i do. because from that moment it isn't just about you anymore and not many people know how to deal with that. and thats when your focus really comes into play. you see before you can expect the world from your spouse you must first be willing to give it. you must first expect the world from yourself. in order to give it to someone else, you can't be selfish and pig headed and you must realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. but the truth is not all of us think that way. for instance you have men/women who claim that they are in love with their spouse but are quick to fuck someone else as soon as problems arise. you have men that will raise some other woman's children but not pay attention or even a dime to their own. you have women who will deny their own children just to get a quick buck and a quick fuck with some dinner on the side. and why is this you ask. well its not only a lack of focus but its also a lack of discipline. i mean think about it, how in the hell are you gonna expect to be treated right when you can't treat any one else right. that my friends is the ultimate question in all marriages. this is why focus is so key. you always have to remember why you got married in the first place. and if you got married for the right reasons then the rest is easy but if you didn't and it just was the next thing down the list. and we all know the list. meet the girl, have the kid, by the dog , have another kid, buy the house, but the cars, buy the furniture, have two more kids, and oh yeah then we'll get married. negro please! not only is your mind out of focus but your ass is out of whack!life revolves around being focused people, this element is key to everything we do, and with the morals that we have we sometimes have to make decisons that may be difficult in alot of cases. like marrying someone who may be of a different nationality than yourself. or telling your parents that their wrong and not giving them a free pass just because they're your parents. or even chosing your friends more wisely. and keeping a distance from the ones who treat you like shit, and who are full of shit as well.the key to everything is to stay focused people. to be true to yourself. there is a very powerful movie called "not without my daughter". this movie is about a woman who goes to iran to vist her husbands family but is tricked and becomes a prisoner to her husband in this country. the same husband who treated her great when they were in the united states. but she remained focused and through it all, the abuse, the beating, the taunting , everything, she managed to escape iran and return to the united states with her duaghter. key word focus. 1 love people