THE CHASE chapt 1

BOY MEETS GIRL, BOY AND GIRL FALL IN LOVE AND LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER. NOW OF COURSE WE ALL KNOW THATS NOT ALWAYS THE CASE. AND IN MOST INSTANCES, ITS THE FURTHEST FROM THE TRUTH. WHAT HAPPENS, WHEN YOU FALL FOR SOMEONE AND THEY DON'T FALL FOR YOU. EVERYTHING THAT YOU THOUGH AND BELIEVED ABOUT THIS PERSON HAS BECOME A LIE. YOU THOUGHT YOU KNEW THEM, BUT WHAT YOU FOUND OUT WAS THAT YOU WERE JUST A SMALL PIECE OF THE PUZZLE IN THEIR GAME. AND THIS GAME WAS MORE DANGEROUS THAN YOU COULD EVER IMAGINE. YOU COULD LOSE YOUR HEART, YOU COULD LOSE YOUR FEELINGS, AND MOST OF ALL YOU COULD LOSE YOUR LIFE. WHAT DO YOU DO? WHAT CHOICE WOULD YOU MAKE? HOW WOULD YOU REACT AND MOST IMPORTANTLY HOW WOULD YOU RESPOND. WE'LL ANSWER ALL OF THESE AND MORE IN MY LATEST BLOG MYSTERY THE CHASE. ITS EVERYTHING YOU EXPECTED IT TO BE AND EVERYTHING YOU DIDN'T EXPECT IT TO BE.

IT MUST HAVE BEEN 2 YEARS NOW THAT YOU WERE MARRIED. YOU HAD THE WONDERFUL HOUSE IN THE SUBURBAN NEIGBORHOOD OF NEWYORK. YOU HAD THE PERFECT JOB, AND YOU THOUGHT YOU HAD THE PERFECT SPOUSE. WHAT HAPPENED IS THE QUESTION? OR SHOULD I SAY HOW DID THIS HAPPEN. IT WAS A MONDAY AND YOU WOKE UP NEXT TO ONE ANOTHER AS USUAL WITH A SMILE AND A KISS ON THE LIPS. YOU BOTH HURRIED TO GET DRESSED SO THAT YOU WOULDN'T
BE LATE FOR WORK AS YOU BOTH LOCKED EYES AND SAID THE WORDS I LOVE YOU FROM JUST A FEW FEET AWAY. YOU NEVER WOULD HAVE GUESSED THAT THIS WOULD BE THE LAST TIME THAT YOU EVER SAW THEM. IT STARTED OFF AS A NORMAL MORNING, YOU HIT THE NORMAL TRAFFIC ON THE FRANKLIN D ROOSELVELT. YOU STOPPED AT STARBUCKS RIGHT OUTSIDE OF BROOKLYN TO GET YOUR NORMAL COFFEE AND MUFFIN. YOU WENT TO WORK WITH A SMILE ON YOUR FACE. YOU WERE WALKING ON AIR. YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE HAD JUST BROUGHT A NEW HOME. YOU TRADED IN YOUR HONDA FOR A NEW HUMMER. YOU WERE FEELING GREAT. ABOUT HALFWAY THROUGH THE DAY, YOU DECIDED TO CALL YOUR SPOUSE UP ON THE PHONE TO SEE IF THE BOTH OF YOU COULD HAVE LUNCH TOGETHER. NOW WHEN YOU CALLED SOMEONE ELSE ANSWERED. YOU CERTAINLY THOUGHT THAT MAYBEY THEY HAD BEEN AWAY FROM THEIR DESK, BUT WHEN YOU ASKED FOR YOUR SPOUSE THEY TOLD YOU THAT THEY HADN'T SHOWN UP THAT MORNING AND THAT THEY HADN'T CALLED THE JOB OR ANYTHING. YOUR MOUTH DROPPED. YOU WERE SHOCKED AND SCARED ALL AT THE SAME TIME. YOU STARTED TO PANIC. YOU QUICKLY DIALED THEIR CELL PHONE NUMBER ONLY TO FIND THAT IT WAS DISCONNECTED. HOW COULD THIS BE? YOU STARTED TO QUESTION. YOU BOTH WERE UNDER THE SAME PLAN. SO YOU THEN QUICKLY CALLED THE CELL PHONE COMPANY AND TO YOUR SURPRISE THEY TOLD YOU THAT YOU HAD PUT IN AN ORDER TO CANCEL THE SERVICE ON THIS PARTICULAR DAY 30 DAYS AGO. AND ALTHOUGH YOU DENIED IT REPEATEDLY, THEY KEPT INSISTING THAT YOU DID. YOU THEN CALLED THE POLICE AND THEY SAID THAT THEY WOULD MEET YOU AT YOUR HOUSE TO GO OVER SOME QUESTIONS OF THE WHERE ABOUTS OF YOUR SPOUSE. YOU QUICKLY DROVE HOME LIKE A SPEED DEAMON, DODGING CARS AND RUNNING RED LIGHTS BUT WHO COULD BLAME YOU. YOU WERE SCARED, YOU DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. AS YOU GOT THERE THE POLICE WERE WAITING FOR YOU OUT SIDE OF YOUR HOME. AS YOU OPENED THE DOOR TO WALK IN , YOUR MOUTH DROPPED YOU COULDN'T BELIEVE. YOU JUST STOOD THERE IN AWE.
WONDERING WHY? STAY TUNE NEXT CHAPTER

SHOWING LOVE BABY!

ONE LOVE GOES TO:

GOTTA SHOW LOVE TO MY WIFE LISA, SHE'S THE QUEEN OF THE HOUSE AND WIFE AND THE ONE THAT STANDS BESIDE ME, I LOVE THAT PUNK

MY DAUGHTER ELIZABETH, DADDY LOVES HIS PRINCESS ALWAYS

MOMS, WELL YOU KNOW SHE GETS ON MY NERVES BUT WHAT ELSE IS NEW, THE DORK

MY BEST FRIEND THOMAS, YEP SUP BRO WE ALWAYS HAVE EACH OTHERS BACK

TO MY FAM, JOHNSON FAM THATS WHAT WE ARE BABY, GOTTA LOVE THAT, LOVE YOU ALL

TO MY LITTLE BROTHER VINCENT, ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU KIDDO

TO MY PHILLY PEEPS, THANKS FOR ALWAYS CHECKING ON THE KID

TO MY GOONIES, HEY YOU GUYS! YOUR EITHER A GOONIE OR YOUR NOT A FAN OF THE 80'S

TO KWAME, THANKS FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE BRO

TO TOM, DAMN MAN WHERE THE HELL ARE MY COOKIES LOL

TO MY TWITTER PEEPS , LITTLE WOODSY, AND LENA, YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME

TO THE KING FAMILY, LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH THANKS FOR BEING THERE FOR US

TO ALL MY BLOG READERS, THANKS FOR KEEPING UP WITH ME, SORRY I KNOW ITS BEEN A WHILE SINCE I'VE WRITTEN BUT WHEN I'M INSPIRED I WRITE

TO MY FACEBOOK PEEPS, 1 LOVE

GO STEELERS DAMMIT!

TO GOD, THANKYOU FOR BLESSING ME AND MY FAMILY

TO MY UNBORN SON, GOT MY FIRST LOOK AT YOU TODAY, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL, LOVE YOU BABY!

OK PEEPS STAY TUNE FOR MY NEXT BLOG, "THE CHASE" COMMING UP SOON!

SEE YALL IN NOVEMBER,,IT WAS WRITTEN

TAKING THE LEAD..A MAN'S DANCE TO THE TOP chapt 6

at the tender age of 34, yes i can say that i am successful, but because of my hunger for success and the ability to gain more, hell no i'm not satisfied. i'm grateful but satisfied i think not. i think of the road i took to get here and how now i should feel like i'm on top of the world. but if i start to feel like that , that feeling in itself makes me feel like i have accomplished all that i can and for me thats never gonna happen. i could be 89 years old and i would still be trying to accomplish more things better things. and this drive started many years ago. i saw racism , i've experienced it first hand. i know what its like to pay more for a car loan than others because basically in some people's opinion i was never suppose to get it in the first place. i know what its like to be in bad relationships to give your heart to someone only for them to play soccer ball with it and score the winning goal like a fake ass jess in bend it like beckham GOAL! i have been through alot, and i took these experiences to heart so that i could learn from my mistakes and learn from the mistakes of others as well. and what i learned was that i was not only good. but i was DAMN GOOD! at that. and it felt good to finally start to succeed. i mean lests be real people, being broke is a bitch! i hated going through that. i hated getting my heart stomped on by girls that now want my number, you've got to be kidding me right. i hated being looked at funny when i would go to jc penny and charge a christmas gift and the manager would ask me for 5 forms of id, my social security number, family history, and a urine sample. its crazy man. but yet i've been through all of that shit and i am still able to keep a level head. the question is always how? but i'll answer that with why?

you see when climbing the ladder of life, you get to hear so many stories of others, some good some bad, but because most of the ones i heard were bad i put myself in 3rd gear when it came to my life and then i was off. yes i became a man. a man that we as men should have been from the jump. and i'm not bragging i'm convinced. what you want in life is always attainable. your goals can always be reached. set your sights high and climb for them because that is what being a man is all about.

TAKING THE LEAD...A MAN'S DANCE TO THE TOP chapt 5

decision making can be very difficult at times , we all know this but it is necessary and a must in our every day lives. for instance if you are married and you see someone very attractive that is giving you the 5 second stare down. you have two choices, you can either walk away or walk toward. as men, so many of us walk toward because we just don't want to give up the women, but when you stop to think about it with the head up top and not the head down below, you'll find that the same woman that is giving you the stare gave about 20 other dudes the stare as well. in other words, your nothing special. so yes the correct choice needs to be made. lets say you have a friend, and you guys go way back man to the days where you were wearing stripe socks and ripped shorts and it was ok back then because you both grew up poor as hell. and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. and all of a sudden this friend of yours decides that it is ok to disrespect you and your family and he/she is suppose to get a free pass because they are your friends. hmmm once again a choice has to be made. you see the choices we make help to define us. the hardest thing in life is to make the correct choice. i mean think about it as men when your having sex, it could be so damn good that you get stuck and start to ponder whether or not you should pull out to achieve that 5 seconds of fame or stay in and gain maybey 2 more seconds at best. but i guess the thought never crossed your mind to wear a freakin condom in the first place. thus there still is a choice that needs to be made.

the basic concept of learning to take the lead is taking control of your own life. never let someone elses thoughts or actions dictate what you decide to do. think for yourself and yourself only. this builds character and helps a young man evolve to an adult. once you are able to accomplish this then the hardest task is behind you but now the difficult road begins and thats learning how to climb the ladder of life. as we all know life maynot always be fair but still we must climb that ladder in order to be successful. and we'll start this climb in my next chapter comming up next.

TAKING THE LEAD...A MAN'S DANCE TO THE TOP chapt 4

its funny sometimes when i think about when i grew up. i can remember my father never being there, hell i didn't meet the idiot until i was 25, and i probably have been typing this blog for more minutes than i actually saw him. and when i think about that period of my life i start to smile because i have beat the odds, like most men should and can. i didn't need a sorry ass excuse for a man in my life to become one. as a matter of fact his ass is the reason that drove me to be more of a man because i just could never pattern my life after some shit like that. and yes some people are probably saying wow did he just call his father a piece of shit. in case you missed it, here it is again, he was a piece of shit. and not just the solid shit either we're talking the shit that clogs up the toilet. and to see how far i've come from that, makes me wonder why more men won't stand the fuck up and become men. stop making all of these kids if you can't support them, and we're not talking a trip to the barbershop once a month. a guy once complained to me about getting hit up for 400.00 a month for child support. i told this dumb ass that i paid 220.00 a week for daycare for my daughter , plus anything else she needed so your 400.00 isn't shit when it comes to raising a child. yeah i put his ass under the bus, hell i could have done an oil change on his stupid ass. oh and don't you just love the ones who have like 3 kids and all by different women, hell if you were going to do that you mind as well have got them at walmart for a freakin 3 for 1 deal.

being a man is serious business, you have to do it 24 hours a day, no days off, no holidays , no vacations, and no extra pay its the one job that is extrememely challanging but has its benefits along the way and just like the recommeneded daily allowance, its is hella good for you. its important to understand that at some point you must take the lead of your own life before you can lead others. you must first establish yourself before you can give advice. and this is where we get to taking the lead and how we go about doing that as men. comming up next chapter

TAKING THE LEAD...A MAN'S DANCE TO THE TOP chapt 3

as men , we seem to think that the world revolves around us. now of course it doesn't but even as some commit to marriage and kids they seem to still think that this is possible. and to sum this theory up in a short sentence, its called taking a back seat. yep, just like my home girl rosa parks you gotta take a seat in the back in order to grow as a person. here is the deal. as a man you are suppose and i stress the word suppose to be a good provider for your family. which means believe it or not, you sometimes have to put the things you want personally on hold to make sure that your family is being taken care of. and this is a must when it comes to roles that we as men must assume. this is all part of the growth of becomming a man. learning to make good choices and sacrafices, in other words you have nothing comming so you can forget it! and thats not necessarily a bad thing. now here is the flip side. you have men that will look after themselves first, a girlfriend second , and way down the line they may just look at their own family. and can you blame them, well its a choice, obviously the wrong one but it still is a choice and women that tend to think nothhing of themselves, tend to make these choices very easy for men. its like why get married when i can play house for free. some women give it up so damn quick that their pussy doesn't even get a chance to breath before re-entry. and men find this attractive because their getting sex. nope. its crazy because when all things point in the right direction men seem to get stuck on stupid and go completly the other way. and they call themselves men. hmmm yeah we'll have to see about that, next chapter

TAKING THE LEAD A MAN'S DANCE TO THE TOP chapt 2

WHAT MAKES A MAN. HMMM. SOME FEEL THAT THEY ARE MEN BECAUSE THEY CAN GET LOTS OF WOMEN. ALTHOUGH IF YOU SEE SOME OF THE WOMEN THAT THEY ARE GETTING YOU'LL THINK TWICE ABOUT ANOUNCING THAT SHIT. BUT SERIOUSLY HOW DOES A MAN TAKE HIS LEAD IN HIS RACE TO THE TOP. WELL NO DOUBT THE SHIT IS HARD WORK. PROBABALY THE HARDEST SHIT KNOWN TO MAN. AND IT STARTS WITHIN. THE TRAINING ISN'T EASY. ITS ACTUALLY A LIFE LONG PROCESS. MEANING FOR ALL OF THE ASSES THAT DON'T THINK THEY ARE ASSES BUT ACTUALLY ARE BECAUSE ALL THEY HAVE TO DO IS LOOK BEHIND THEM, ITS A LIFE LONG PROCESS. BECAUSE THROUGH OUT LIFE, YOU NEVER STOP LEARNING. YOU NEVER STOP GROWING AS A PERSON. I MEAN THINK ABOUT IT. THAT GIRL IN THE MINI SKIRT THAT YOU SAW AT 21 DOESN'T SEEM AS ATTRACTIVE AS THEY DID WHEN YOUR 31. REASON BEING YOU HAVE BILLS MAN. YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T JUST AFFORD TO SPEND A FEW DOLLARS AT THE DOUBLE T DINER FOR A QUICK FUCK THAT MAY ONLY LAST YOU 5 MINUTES DEPENDING ON WHETHER OR NOT YOU HAVE BLUE BALLS OR GET PUSSY ON A REGULAR BASIS. BETTER BE CAREFUL BECAUSE UNLIKE PINNOCHIO YOUR SHIT WON'T GROW IT WILL SHRINK! ITS FUNNY. I CAN LOOK BACK AT ALL THE WOMEN I DATED AND MOST OF THEM WEREN'T WORTH A SHIT. BUT YEAH I MEAN COME ON, LIKE MOST I WAS YOUNG AND HORNY AND HELL I SAW WHAT MOST MEN SAW. NICE LEGS , NICE ASS, AND THE FACT THAT EVEN THOUGH I DIDN'T HAVE TO USE GAME, I KNEW I COULD HIT IT. AND SO I DID AS MOST YOUNG MEN DO. BUT AS WE GROW OLDER OUR WHOLE PERCEPTION OF WOMEN AND OURSELVES MUST CHANGE. NOW DON'T GET ME WRONG. THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS TO EVERY RULE. LIKE FOR INSTANCE I KNOW THIS GUY WHO I USE TO CLUB WITH BACK WHEN I WAS 21, AND THIS DUDE IS STILL CLUBING. TAKING HIS CLOTHES TO THE DRY CLEANERS TO GET THAT EXTRA STARCH AS IF THE GIRLS IN THE CLUBS ARE GOING TO NOTICE THAT SHIT. I CAN HEAR IT NOW. "THATS A NICE SHIRT BUT LOOK AT THE STARCH ON THOSE SLEEVES." NEGRO PLEASE! NO ONE CARES ABOUT THAT SHIT. REMEMBER THE GIRL WHO WOULD ONLY GO OUT WITH GUYS THAT HAD NICE CARS , WELL NOW THEY'LL GET IN A HORSE AND BUGGY IF NEED BE JUST TO STAY OFF THE FUCKING BUS STOP. OH HOW TIMES HAVE CHANGED AND SO HAVE WE AS MEN. WE KNOW LONGER ARE THE ONES WHO SHOULD BE LOOKING FOR DATES. WE ARE HUSBANDS AND FATHERS AND NEED TO TAKE THAT RESPONSIBILITY SERIOUSLY. THESE ARE NOT ONLY OUR LIVES WE'RE TALKING ABOUT. THESE ARE THE LIVES OF OUR CHILDREN AND WIVES THAT ARE AFFECTED BY EVERY DECISION WE MAKE. AND THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT TO KNOW. AND THIS IS WHERE IT ALL STARTS . KNOWING THAT CHANGE IS A MUST AND ACCEPTING IT AND TAKING ON THAT CHALLANGE . STAY TUNE AS WE DIG MORE INTO THIS TOPIC NEXT CHAPTER COMMING UP SOON.

TAKING THE LEAD, A MAN'S DANCE TO THE TOP chapt 1

AS MEN WE ALL ASSUME DIFFERENT ROLES IN LIFE. THESE ROLES HOWEVER DO NOT DEFINE US, BUT THEY DO MAKE UP OUR ROAD TO SUCCESS. ITS FUNNY YOU CAN LOOK ON A CORNER ANY GIVEN DAY AND SEE A STRUGGLING MOTHER ON THE BUS STOP. SHE HAS KIDS STANDING BESIDE HER. YOU DON'T THINK ABOUT IT BUT ITS HER ROUTINE. SHE HAS TO DO WHAT SHE HAS TO DO. WHICH MAY INCLUDE GETTING UP AT 5AM , GETTING HER KIDS READY FOR SCHOOL AND DAY CARE, GETTING ON THE BUS, DROPPING THEM OFF AND HEADING TO WORK. ONLY TO PULL 8 HOURS PLUS MANDATORY OVERTIME, AND DO THE EXACT SAME THING WHILE HEADING HOME. IS THIS A REALITY? WELL OF COURSE IT IS. AND MANY MEN STAND BY AND WATCH THIS SHIT DEVELOP. WHY IS THE QUESTION. IS IT OUT OF FEAR OR PURE LAZINESS. I MEAN LETS BE REAL, YOU FUCKED HER, THE SEX WAS GREAT, BUT WHEN THE BABY CAME YOU DECIDED SHE WASN'T WORTH THE FIVE SECONDS OF FAME THAT CAUSED YOU TO HAVE THE CHILDREN IN THE FIRST PLACE. AND AS MEN IS THIS ACCEPTABLE. HAS THIS BECOME THE STANDARD. FOR US TO BECOME WEEKEND FATHERS AND BIRTHDAY DADS. WHAT THE FUCK? LOOK WITHIN YOURSELF. ASK YOURSELF WHY THIS IS. ARE YOU A MAN THAT IS SO DIFFERENT THAN THE DRUG DEALER ON THE CORNER WHO CUTS DOWN A 1/4 COCAIN ONLY TO BREAK IT INTO SMALL PIECES TO MAKE A G-PACK, TO TRY TO BREAK EVEN. ARE YOU SO DIFFERENT THAN THE GUY WHO IS WITH A GIRL RAISING HER KIDS WHILE IGNORING YOUR OWN AND WATCHING THEM FADE INTO EXSISTENCE. YES WHAT IS THE STANDARD. WELL THE WAY I VIEW IT IS AS MEN WE MUST EXCEED THE STANDARD AT ALL COSTS. IT IS OUR DUTY TO DO SO, OUR PURPOSE. THIS IS A ROLE THAT WE MUST ASSUME AS FATHERS , AS LIFE PARTNERS AS WE ARE HUSBANDS TO OUR WIVES, AND MOST OF ALL ADULTS AS WE GROW FROM KIDS TO MEN. STAY TUNE NEXT CHAPTER PEOPLE.

IF SOMEONE CHEATS WOULD YOU TAKE THEM BACK chapt 2

THE WORSE FEELING IN THE WORLD IS KNOWING THAT YOU GOT CHEATED ON. I MEAN THINK ABOUT THIS. WHEN SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU WHAT THE HELL ARE THEY GOING TO SAY, WOOPS I TRIPPED OVER A SNICKER BAR AND FELL INTO SOME SEX. I MEAN COME ON MAN THEY KNEW WHAT THEY HELL THEY WERE DOING. AND THEY REALLY HAVE NO REGRETS ABOUT. WHAT YOU'LL FIND IN A CHEATER IS THAT THIS IS THE WAY THAT THEY ARE. NOW OF COURSE ITS DIFFERENT FOR MEN AND WOMEN SO LETS GET RIGHT INTO THAT.FOR A MAN, MOST MEN CHEAT BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE. I MEAN LOOK AT THIS FOR A SECOND. HOW MANY MEN DO YOU ACTUALLY KNOW HAVE A NICE CAR AND A NICE HOUSE LEGALLY. YOU SEE I ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT. THAT SHIT IS ONE OR THE OTHER. IF THEY HAVE THE LEXUS, ITS NEW , ITS CLEAN AND ITS PARKED OUTSIDE OF THEIR MOMS HOUSE WHERE THEY LIVE. IF THEY LIVE ON THEIR OWN, THEY LIVE IN AN APARTMENT WHICH THEY WILL GIVE YOU THE KEY TO AND YOUR VERY OWN SPACE IN THEIR DRESSER DRAWER TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR SOMEONE SPECIAL YEAH RIGHT. MOST MEN HAVE A HARD TIME TAKING CARE OF THEMSELVES, SO TAKING CARE OF A WIFE AND A FAMILY IS THE FURTHEST FROM THEIR MINDS. SO WHEN RELATIONSHIPS BECOME DIFFICULT THE FIRST THING MOST MEN WILL DO IS CHEAT. THEY WILL GO INTO THE ARMS OF ANOTHER WOMAN QUICKER THAT YOU LET HIM CUM IN YOU THE FIRST TIME YOU HAD SEX. AND SHE WILL END UP DOING THE SAME. AND MEN KNOW THIS AND WOMEN DO AS WELL. THIS IS NO SECRET. MEN CHEAT. ALOT OF MEN DO. THEY ALWAYS HAVE AND THEY ALWAYS WILL. WHAT IS AMAZING IS HOW WOMEN FALL FOR THIS SHIT EVERYTIME BECAUSE IT APPEARS THAT THIS PARTICULAR MAN HAS A LITTLE BIT OF MONEY WHEN HE ACTUALLY HAS A LITTLE BIT OF NOTHING. AND BECAUSE OF THIS MOST MEN ARE CONSIDERED DOGS, OR PLAYERS. BUT THEY ONLY PLAY BECAUSE THEY ARE ALLOWED TO. FOR INSTANCE WHY IS IT THAT A WOMAN WILL STAY WITH A GUY THAT HAS SEVERAL KIDS PREVIOUS TO HER. MEANING THAT HE WAS THE HELL OUT THERE. AND YOU KNEW IT AND YEAH YOU FUCKED HIM ANYWAY. MAYBEY YOU WERE HORNY, MAYBEY YOU WERE STUPID, MAYBEY YOU WERE A LITTLE HORNY AND ALOT STUPID. REGARDLESS YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WERE GETTING YOURSELF INTO. ITS ALMOST LIKE HEARING THE STORY THAT MOST WOMEN WILL TELL YOU. YOU ALL KNOW THE ONE ABOUT THE FACT THAT SHE LOVED HIM AND SHE NEVER KNEW HE WAS MARRIED. SHE HAD NEVER BEEN TO HIS HOUSE. COULDN'T CALL HIS HOME PHONE. THEY ALWAYS MET SOMEWHERE AND YET SHE DIDN'T SENSE ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT. TRUTH IS SHE KNEW HE WAS MARRIED, SHE JUST THOUGH THAT HE WAS GOING TO TRADE IN HIS WIFE FOR A NEW ONE WITHOUT ANY MONEY DOWN AND NO WARRANTY, I THINK NOT. SO ARE MEN DOGS , HELL YES THEY ARE, NO ONE IS DENYING THAT BUT SO ARE WOMEN AND WE'LL SEE WHY COMMING UP NEXT CHAPTER
THE WORSE FEELING IN THE WORLD IS KNOWING THAT YOU GOT CHEATED ON. I MEAN THINK ABOUT THIS. WHEN SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU WHAT THE HELL ARE THEY GOING TO SAY, WOOPS I TRIPPED OVER A SNICKER BAR AND FELL INTO SOME SEX. I MEAN COME ON MAN THEY KNEW WHAT THEY HELL THEY WERE DOING. AND THEY REALLY HAVE NO REGRETS ABOUT. WHAT YOU'LL FIND IN A CHEATER IS THAT THIS IS THE WAY THAT THEY ARE. NOW OF COURSE ITS DIFFERENT FOR MEN AND WOMEN SO LETS GET RIGHT INTO THAT.FOR A MAN, MOST MEN CHEAT BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE. I MEAN LOOK AT THIS FOR A SECOND. HOW MANY MEN DO YOU ACTUALLY KNOW HAVE A NICE CAR AND A NICE HOUSE LEGALLY. YOU SEE I ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT. THAT SHIT IS ONE OR THE OTHER. IF THEY HAVE THE LEXUS, ITS NEW , ITS CLEAN AND ITS PARKED OUTSIDE OF THEIR MOMS HOUSE WHERE THEY LIVE. IF THEY LIVE ON THEIR OWN, THEY LIVE IN AN APARTMENT WHICH THEY WILL GIVE YOU THE KEY TO AND YOUR VERY OWN SPACE IN THEIR DRESSER DRAWER TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR SOMEONE SPECIAL YEAH RIGHT. MOST MEN HAVE A HARD TIME TAKING CARE OF THEMSELVES, SO TAKING CARE OF A WIFE AND A FAMILY IS THE FURTHEST FROM THEIR MINDS. SO WHEN RELATIONSHIPS BECOME DIFFICULT THE FIRST THING MOST MEN WILL DO IS CHEAT. THEY WILL GO INTO THE ARMS OF ANOTHER WOMAN QUICKER THAT YOU LET HIM CUM IN YOU THE FIRST TIME YOU HAD SEX. AND SHE WILL END UP DOING THE SAME. AND MEN KNOW THIS AND WOMEN DO AS WELL. THIS IS NO SECRET. MEN CHEAT. ALOT OF MEN DO. THEY ALWAYS HAVE AND THEY ALWAYS WILL. WHAT IS AMAZING IS HOW WOMEN FALL FOR THIS SHIT EVERYTIME BECAUSE IT APPEARS THAT THIS PARTICULAR MAN HAS A LITTLE BIT OF MONEY WHEN HE ACTUALLY HAS A LITTLE BIT OF NOTHING. AND BECAUSE OF THIS MOST MEN ARE CONSIDERED DOGS, OR PLAYERS. BUT THEY ONLY PLAY BECAUSE THEY ARE ALLOWED TO. FOR INSTANCE WHY IS IT THAT A WOMAN WILL STAY WITH A GUY THAT HAS SEVERAL KIDS PREVIOUS TO HER. MEANING THAT HE WAS THE HELL OUT THERE. AND YOU KNEW IT AND YEAH YOU FUCKED HIM ANYWAY. MAYBEY YOU WERE HORNY, MAYBEY YOU WERE STUPID, MAYBEY YOU WERE A LITTLE HORNY AND ALOT STUPID. REGARDLESS YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WERE GETTING YOURSELF INTO. ITS ALMOST LIKE HEARING THE STORY THAT MOST WOMEN WILL TELL YOU. YOU ALL KNOW THE ONE ABOUT THE FACT THAT SHE LOVED HIM AND SHE NEVER KNEW HE WAS MARRIED. SHE HAD NEVER BEEN TO HIS HOUSE. COULDN'T CALL HIS HOME PHONE. THEY ALWAYS MET SOMEWHERE AND YET SHE DIDN'T SENSE ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT. TRUTH IS SHE KNEW HE WAS MARRIED, SHE JUST THOUGH THAT HE WAS GOING TO TRADE IN HIS WIFE FOR A NEW ONE WITHOUT ANY MONEY DOWN AND NO WARRANTY, I THINK NOT. SO ARE MEN DOGS , HELL YES THEY ARE, NO ONE IS DENYING THAT BUT SO ARE WOMEN AND WE'LL SEE WHY COMMING UP NEXT CHAPTER

IF SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU, DO YOU TAKE THEM BACK chapt 1

IF SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU DO YOU TAKE THEM BACK? chapt 1
now although i have never cheated on any women that i have ever dated , had a relationship with, or even been married to, that doesn't mean that i haven't been cheated on. hell i'm sure that i have. and i'm not going to lie, that in itself can make you feel like shit. but it happends more times than you think. and it seems that it only happends to the good hearted individuals too. funny thing is that most cheaters try to make up everything that there is in the book to make it look like it wasn't their fault, knowing damn well it was. they knew they did it, they should know they were there when they did it. i mean come on who are we kidding. its not really about the sex. hell i know for sure that it wasn't when it came down to me. i mean come on now i'm donte, enough said. it was more about what a guy could do for them. at least in my experiences it was. you see people usually cheat because they think that they see something better than what they have. and in most cases it isn't true but they do it anyway because well they stink! but is it fair to the ones who have gotten cheated on. well in my opinion hell no man. i mean think about it, you sleep with somone, you love that individual, you have your whole future planned with them and they just go out and cheat on you and the funny thing is, they act as if it didn't matter. almost as if it was nothing. like your investment, your time, everything you put in to the relationship wasn't worth shit. which basically means they really never gave a shit about you in the first place. ok so knowing all of this. if your significant other cheats on you, would you take them back?ok first of all lets remember that they cheated on you meaning that at some point when you were kissing her lips you were tasting his dick. and vice versa. when you were sucking his dick you were tasting her lips. sounds degrading but its true. so why do people stay in these relationships. well its certainly a mystery. for me personally i could never ever stay with someone who cheated on me. hell no man i'd rather kiss a toilet seat. hell it may hurt to get my heart broken but dayum hell no i'm not taking no sloppy left overs from some girl who thinks that because she fucked me a few times she has the right to treat me like shit. nope, i'll drop her off on the corner of drop em road and leave her avenue. but the truth is people do stay with individuals that cheat on them. i mean for instance i know this girl who straight up married the guy that cheated on her and i was like dayum. but she said she was happy. and i'm thinking are you happy that he cheated on you or are you happy that you married the guy that cheated on you because now its leagal? man please! there is no good in cheating. alot of feelings can get hurt and they usually do and basically your looked at like some kind of dog with a wish bone flee collar with a tag along box of kibbles and bits.now although both sexes cheat. and yes i mean both men and women. they both are percieved differently and we will get into this next chapter

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 4

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 4
the one thing that i have learned in all of my experiences within relationships, whether they be friendships, relatives, dating, or even marriage is that life in itself is hard man. i mean hella hard like a 3 day old pancake. life is hard as it is so why deal with a whole lot of unneccessary bullshit if you don't have to. one of the main keys of staying focused is learning how to pick and chose your friends as well as your spouses and significant others. you see some people can think that they can be happy by making the other people in their lives happy but what they do not realize is that they themselves get lost in the translation. yep even i have been there man. and i'm not afraid to admit that. life is a learning curve for us all. as we live it, we never stop learning. but the key is to learn from our mistakes and move on with our lives. i look at my life sometimes and i'm like wow man how did i do that. well i think that i was groomed for success. i think that i struggled when i was suppose to and came out on top when i was suppose to and i never looked back from anything that i have ever done. and this brings me to marriage. you see marriage is sort of that part of your life that changes from the moment you say i do. because from that moment it isn't just about you anymore and not many people know how to deal with that. and thats when your focus really comes into play. you see before you can expect the world from your spouse you must first be willing to give it. you must first expect the world from yourself. in order to give it to someone else, you can't be selfish and pig headed and you must realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. but the truth is not all of us think that way. for instance you have men/women who claim that they are in love with their spouse but are quick to fuck someone else as soon as problems arise. you have men that will raise some other woman's children but not pay attention or even a dime to their own. you have women who will deny their own children just to get a quick buck and a quick fuck with some dinner on the side. and why is this you ask. well its not only a lack of focus but its also a lack of discipline. i mean think about it, how in the hell are you gonna expect to be treated right when you can't treat any one else right. that my friends is the ultimate question in all marriages. this is why focus is so key. you always have to remember why you got married in the first place. and if you got married for the right reasons then the rest is easy but if you didn't and it just was the next thing down the list. and we all know the list. meet the girl, have the kid, by the dog , have another kid, buy the house, but the cars, buy the furniture, have two more kids, and oh yeah then we'll get married. negro please! not only is your mind out of focus but your ass is out of whack!life revolves around being focused people, this element is key to everything we do, and with the morals that we have we sometimes have to make decisons that may be difficult in alot of cases. like marrying someone who may be of a different nationality than yourself. or telling your parents that their wrong and not giving them a free pass just because they're your parents. or even chosing your friends more wisely. and keeping a distance from the ones who treat you like shit, and who are full of shit as well.the key to everything is to stay focused people. to be true to yourself. there is a very powerful movie called "not without my daughter". this movie is about a woman who goes to iran to vist her husbands family but is tricked and becomes a prisoner to her husband in this country. the same husband who treated her great when they were in the united states. but she remained focused and through it all, the abuse, the beating, the taunting , everything, she managed to escape iran and return to the united states with her duaghter. key word focus. 1 love people

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 3

other people, wow man. well i guess you can say we need them in our life. but do we really. i mean for all of the havoc and pain in the ass that these people cause the question still remains, do we really need these people in our lives. hmmm. well i guess some individuals can certainly be there, but as for others i wouldn't take their asses to a dog show where they served kibbles and bits on a stick. i mean the nerve of some of our so called friends right. and yes we all have them. first i like to call them the good friends, or the best friends. you know the ones whom you can count on for anything and they will always be there for you. and then you have the fucked up friends. i like to call these individuals the fucked up friends! these are the friends that are not only fucked up but they are fucked up to the highest point of fucktivity and since their lives are fucked up, they now want your life to be fucked up as well. which is basically an illegal action of transfer fuck, which eventually leads to some fucked up shit. and as fucked up as it sounds we still have these people in our lives. but why is the question.
you see when you are focused you tend to not only get your priorities straight but you also chose better friends and company. you chose better people to hang around and to associate yourself with. this is really important because in order to go further in life you can't hang around people that will constantly try to hold you back. and although no one can actually do that realistically, they can still make life very difficult for you. for example. you know that friend that we all have. they're so full of shit that they can fill two hefty bags with it, plant it in a forest and help save our enviornment all at the same time. well anyways these are the individuals who like to pose. thats right pose. they're fakers. not like an orgasim, but more like that guy from phantasim. they never follow through on anything. they'll say they'll meet you somewhere and will never show even if it means your life and then they will have the nerve to call you a week later as if nothing happend. or and i love this type the disrespectful type. you know the type who has nothing but mouth. and they run it all day like an energizer battery and when they say something wrong. they spend half of the day trying to correct themselves and the other half trying to make excuses on how they weren't wrong for what they said in the first place. and then of course we have the type who think they have everything but really have nothing and spend their whole lives trying to pretend. and what for. i mean why try to impress. and all of these characteristics of individuals we know add up to one common denominator. L O S E R! thats right they're losers. so why surround yourself with people like that.
you see the hardest part about staying focused is ridding yourself of people like that who try their hardest to keep you off balance. but still we must stay focused and we must go on. we must look past all of that, and realize that our lives are important too. we are people to and in order to succeed we must take every step carefully and that includes chosing the type of people we surround ourselves with more carefully. and this just doesn't go for friends. this goes for relationships and marriages as well. comming up next chapter!

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 2

the main focus for all of us should first be us. see you cannot focus on anything until you learn to focus on yourself. whether it be taking better care of yourself, or even putting yourself first, and it can even come down to loving yourself and having a good self esteem. you'd be surprised at how many individuals out here think absolutley nothing about themselves and therefore allow others to do the same. now they 'll lie about it. they'll swear up and down that there life is spectacular but in reality their life stinks like it sat on the corner of garbage can drive and dumpster avenue. when you do this you tend to lose focus and allow others to treat you straight up like your name was stanley. and who in the blue hell is stanley? in other words treat you like shit. and not just any kind of shit. the really stinky funky shit. the type of shit that you can't stand the smell of. this may sound horrible but its true. you see most people only get away with what you allow them too. i learned this along time ago. that sometimes you being a kind person can be mistaken for you being a weak person. and weak individuals never survive this game. so loving yourself is always key. this way the rest can become easy for you. you will find it easy to establish your priorities and it won't be an issue to take a back seat at times when it comes to these priorities. this is how many individuals get lost in the fold. some people think that they are focused, but really they aren't. they let people treat them like shit because well its always been that way. they don't stand up for themselves even when its absolutley necessary. they get married for the wrong reasons have kids by the wrong people and wonder where the hell they went wrong. but still they will claim that they were focused. hell they weren't focused. they were out of focus like a fake ass ugly betty. how the hell you gonna see where your going if both of your eyes are shut. if you allow people to treat you any kind of way, you mind as well be nobody because thats exactly how they will see you, as a nobody and thats not very fair is it. life is full of surprises. some good and some bad. but most of all its the challanges that make or break us. and these challanges start from within. the challange to be the best that we can be as individuals. whether it be a better person, mom, dad, grandparent, friend, husband , or wife, these are all roles that we play. and each of these roles help to define us. and once we have ourselves established and we can remain focused on us, then and only then can we focus on others which can be a good thing and bad thing as we turn the corner with this blog comming up next.

THE FOCAL POINT chapt 1

the focal point or focus point is the frame of mind that everyone must maintain when things become difficult. whether the obstacle be marriage, friendship, health, or financial. this frame of mind, this focus, helps you to weed out your true friends, the goonies as i like to call them from the jerks and assholes or should i say ass holes and jerks that call themselves your friends. we all know them and we all have them. but when you are focused do they really matter. does anyone outside of your world really matter. well they shouldn't. you see some people really tend to have a rather large circle. as for me, nope my circle is small. it always has been small and it will always be small because i'm the type of person that likes to see whats going on around me at all times. its no fun being blind sided. you know that friend that we all have that only wants to be that friend of convience. you know the one, who claims that there is always an excuse on why they didn't follow through. hell no in my opinion they can follow these N---! you take people like this and everything that goes on in the world that you have absolutely no control over and life can become stressful for you really quick, but for me, nope i don't do stress. stress can kill you, just like drugs, smoking and bad sex. its not good for you. it can be a real pain in the ass just like a signifiant other, spouse, friends, and yep no sex. so where does this lead us. well it leads us to this point. that we all must stay focused in life. at times it is extremely difficult. its sometimes seems damn near impossible, but still we must stay focused. this focus, helps us to eventaully reach our goal to become successful at everything we do. this goal is attainable. and although it is difficult we must remain focused and poised in all aspects of our lives, so follow me as we go over all of these aspects, because they like most things are extremely important.
next chapter people

IS SEX BETTER BEFORE OR AFTER MARRIAGE chapt 3

although most men will never admit this to themselves, alot of men enjoy sex more before they are married. this is basically because you can have sex without any type of committment involved. you see when you are single you can have as much as as you like. you don't have to be involved, you don't have to be in love, you really don't even have to be attracted to the person if the beer is flowing pretty good from the tap that night. and most men prefer this. men love to go from woman to woman. but as time goes by and children are born, that whole lifestyle becomes a pain in the ass. instead of enjoying the sexual freedom, most people find themselves getting stuck in weird situations. like having a stalker, or having baby mama or baby father drama, and lets not start with the whole child custody thing. thats what marriage brings to the table. when you are in love which is not in lust but in love, sex can bea beautiful experience. there nothing like making love to someone that you are in love with. the whole idea of just sleeping around can be fun for a while. but at the end of the day you'll find yourself by yourself. so the answer is pretty simple. sex can ceratainly bebetter after marriage as long as the two individuals love one another and share the same sexual passion. but if the marriage is rocky then you are better off sleeping on a hard ass bed from bedrock next to wilma and bettey because your sex life will be dull and you'll just stay hard as a rock!

IS SEX BETTER BEFORE OR AFTER MARRIAGE chapt 2

alot of individuals fail to understand how much marriage can change a couple's attraction to one another. and its true. your attraction can either decrease or increase but it will certainly not stay the same. for instance when your dating someone, all you can think about is sex because well for the most part the two of you aren't around eachother a whole lot, so your horny all of the time. but once you get married, the sex expectation goes up. your sex drive goes straight from 2nd to 3rd and this is without even using the clutch. your married now so you expect sex all of the time. but it certainly doesn't end up that way does it. isn't it funny how when your dating you can't wait to get each other out of your clothes. but once your married, you can barely find time to even get in a quickie. whether it be because of work schedules, or kids , or just plain busy, sex almost has to be penciled in and planned. and sometimes that takes the fun out of sex. you see everyone loves the idea of fogging up the bedroom windows spare of the moment. but once your married, for the most part you get so busy trying to balance your life between your spouse and kids and work, that sex tends to get pushed back to the end of the line. and this can drive you up a wall because your horny, you want it, you gotta have it and you can't and this is how sex can become complicated. back when i was single, i had so much time to do what i wanted, when i wanted. but once i got married, that time seem to tick faster than a stop watch. sex became almost get it while you can. whether it was before work or before we were headed out or just a quickie to slow the craving. and it wasn't bad sex at all it was actually great sex, but it wasn't the sex that we all had come accustomed to back when we were dating. so lets just call it different sex. you see when you are married. you have to find the time to have sex and that can be difficult. for a guy it may have to come down to chosing between the steelers kicking the ravens ass or you getting some. for a female it comes down to watching sex in the city or actually having sex in the city in your home of course. and the major perk of sex after marriage is the intensity of it. you see with a boyfriend/girlfriend, you may have love for them but its not the same as looking into your spouses eyes and the two of you bite your bottom lip just so you can hold out the final seconds so that the both of you can climax at the exact same time. and of course nothing beats that naked butt in the moon beam walk afterwards. sex when your married has no boundries, well at least it shouldn't. its the one sexual encounter where anything goes and that my friends you can't get in just a relationship. and we'll get into this more next chapter.

IS SEX BETTER BEFORE OR AFTER MARRIAGE chapt 1

sex, we've all been there. we've all had it at some point or another. but through out our relationships on the road to marriage was the sex better before or after we actually got married. funny thing is most individuals will never admit that at one time or another they actually thought about it or even took a step further and fantasized about one of their ex's. you see when you are single sex is more fun than anything. there is nothing like having it any and everywhere. you didn't have to have a bedroom and candles and soft music. it was just more about the thought of actually having sex and being in the in crowd that got most of us excited didn't it. i mean think back to that first time you ever had sex. it probably wasn't that comfortable to begin with but once you got the hang of it, it was on from there. you became addicted in a way . so much that everytime you saw the opposite sex walking down the street the first thing you thought about was having sex with them. and don't try to deny it because we've all been there. i like to look back and call those years the horny as toads years. because back then we weren't concerned, we weren't thinking about anything, we were in fact just horny and horny kicks common sense's ass every time. so sex was more fun back then. the occasional encounter in the front and back set of the car, the back porch, even the bedroom while the parents were out of the house for a while. funny thing is most of us rushed so much to have the sex that we were out of it before we ever started it for fear of getting caught. but still it was fun, and with this fun came feelings. these feelings became love for some but not for all. and thats where sex changes when it comes to marriage. you see relationships tend to have such care free lifestyles that alot of people never think that things are going to change once they get married. but oh how they change. they change drastically even. so much that our once fun and care free lifestyle seems like a distant memory once we take the plunge. and the one question that always remains is was the sex better before or after you got married. well we will look into this deeply people as we dig further into this blog. stay tune for chapter 2 to comming up next!